I tend to like more the sound of the snare on the overheads too, but that way it gets a strange feeling, like it being "a little away from the rest of the kit".
Mmmm. I often find it useful to have the drum kit/snare "move back" a bit. I guess it depends on the band/material. If you're going for a very dry snare sound then you have to get it mostly from the snare mic. What mic where you using? which preamp? Oh, check the phase. I'm sure you have.... I just find it specially hard with the snare drum. Maybe double check it. see if you get more weight out of it. If you've recorded on protools remember tdm plugins delay the signal. This can totally fuck up your drum sound (if you insert a 1 band eq plug in on your snare you delay that track three samples@44,1Khz in a tdm system...)
I agree with Bernardo. Try to get some room tracks. I remember the pictures you posted of the room you were working in. It didn't look promising, but give it a try. I would go for spaced omnis against the wall (I mean touching the walls...) or in the corners were the floor meets the walls. If you delay these mics you might get something useful. I find the room sound provides realism and more weight to the kit. It really helps to give a sense of size and loudness.
This is kind of unrelated to your post but you might find it interesting.
http://www.danalexanderaudio.com/glynjohns.htm
I find it usefull when cymbals are bright and loud and I'm having a hard time getting the toms to "come out".
I'm looking forward to those mp3s. Phase cancellation is a pain in the cock!
Javier Ortiz