My wife's 2 years older than me and I OWN THAT BITCH !!!!

Now, who's gonna get me a pot pie?

As someone that's dated both older men and women, my assessment on the topic has been this:
dating older men: not crap
dating older women: crap

This topic is about dating older women, so I will elaborate on that.

However, I think my older-woman-dating experience may have been a bit biased as:
1. she was my boss
2. she was REALLY hot
3. she kept buying me nice things I didn't need (but also some nice things I did need.)

That said she was insane, needy, constantly sex hungry at inappropriate times, and made working around her impossible.
I was 23 at the time, and she was 32.
It was crap, but I still say she was hot.

alex maiolo wrote:My advice, yes.
And older woman who is interested in a younger man is either nuts, or knows what she wants. Hope, and look for signs, that it's the latter.

And if it's the former, stay well away!!!!

i'd

alex maiolo wrote:

And older woman who is interested in a younger man is either nuts, or knows what she wants. Hope, and look for signs, that it's the latter. It usually is.

There will be no games. She won't expect you to pay for everything. She will probably buy you gifts and do really nice stuff for you. More than likely she will do marvelous things to your tackle - things that will make you see god.

If things go well, it will be an experience you will never forget, and you will learn a lot, far beyond carnal things. All she'll expect from you in return is that you make her feel attractive and cool. If you are considering this, you probably think that already.

Don't ask me how I know this, but assuming she's not insane, I swear to you that you want to do this.

-A

I'd say that a person is statistically as likely to be a fucking idiot whether they're 50, 40, 30 or 100.

I'm pretty sure that no woman of 20 I dated now (assuming that I wasn't married, and that I successfully duped a woman of twenty into dating me) would be awestruck, like a rabbit in headlights by my incredible maturity, 'experience' and whatnot.

In short I'd say that older women are no more likely to make incredible partners than younger women.

Adam CR wrote:... like a rabbit ...

Just let go, Adam.

Chapter Two wrote:

Adam CR wrote:... like a rabbit ...

Just let go, Adam.

Ouch!

Well played!

I have not read this thread, and after making this post I'm never going to reopen it [all right, I did, once, just to edit this for clarity]. I write for the information and possible entertainment and/or edification of the gentlemen and ladies of this forum, and to get some stuff off my chest.

I am 43 years old, single, heterosexual, and female. (To whatever degree it may be relevant: literally every person I've gotten to know in the past few years has told me, early on and without prompting, that I look much younger, as in 10 to 15 years, than my actual age; genetics, smoking, and punk rock are the keys.) I have never been married or had children. I don't do "hookups." I am not insane. I am also a somewhat odd person in several respects; two that may be relevant here are 1) having no interest in the professional / financial stability or prospects of potential partners, beyond their not sponging off me and except as such matters concern them for their own sake, and 2) having no interest in starting a family; this is fortunate since I am nearing the point where it will not be possible to have children of my own, though I suppose adoption would be a possibility in the unlikely event I should ever change my mind.

The last person I dated (before the current one, that is) was 25, very much a first for me in terms of the age gap. I fell for him -- incidentally not an indie rock / punk / math rock / noise dude at all, much more of a computer / math geek -- very unexpectedly and very hard. The relationship never became physical but contained strong emotional and intellectual elements. He apparently returned my feelings but finally decided not to pursue a romantic relationship with me specifically because I was 17 years older than he was; what other factors were included in that I don't know, but that was the only one he cited. At his (I believe) sincere and ulterior-motive-less request I tried to maintain a platonic friendship with him, but it soon became clear that, due to the unabated strength of my feelings, that was not working, so I ended it.

I cannot blame him (or myself, now that I consider it) in the least, and I still feel like a crushed insect about it, and I will never date anyone under 35 again. If I stay single for the rest of my life, so be it.

Most hated acronym: MILF. Fuck off. "Attractive older woman" is too hard to say, or abbreviate? Why does "Mom" need to be involved in that concept at all? Etc., etc.

Cheers, everyone, and best of luck, whatever your desires are or may become.

ctrl-s wrote:Most hated acronym: MILF. Fuck off. "Attractive older woman" is too hard to say, or abbreviate? Why does "Mom" need to be involved in that concept at all? Etc., etc.
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Because it's from a movie, spoken by a character about the mother of one of his peers.