Eierdiebe wrote: most women can't satisfy me. i haven't met my match.

I can see that. It would take a special kind of self-obsessed twit.

tipcat wrote: . . . the emotional yank when there is "history" is something I could do without.

I'd go see a band called The Emotional Yank.

cwiko wrote:

tipcat wrote: . . . the emotional yank when there is "history" is something I could do without.

I'd go see a band called The Emotional Yank.

You'd go see Ryan Adams?

itchy mcgoo wrote:I am the same, but feel complete. Booty calls seem to arise from gray area situations, i.e. you're not fully over a break-up, so you sleep together; you don't like the person enough to actually commit to them, but you'll sleep with them, etc.

I don't want to sleep with someone I'm on the fence about. I think you'd wake up with something akin to a hangover.

For me, CRAP.

Yes, this kind of booty-call is CRAP. I've been in this situation and it ended terribly.

But if two people have an understanding and have the same expectations, I think it's fine. I've also been in this situation. It worked just fine.

Ishmael wrote:

Eierdiebe wrote: most women can't satisfy me. i haven't met my match.

I can see that. It would take a special kind of self-obsessed twit.

in some ways i am a very self-absorbed person, but i'm also exceptionally open to many people and things. my capacity for responsiveness, for living in the moment, is well above average. it's one of the things that's made me a good artist, being myopic but responsive and suggestible.

what i meant by "most women can't satisfy me" is that i need a lot of reassurance and most women haven't been able to give me this.

oh, and i don't think i'm a twit, but i bet daniel quinn doesn't consider himself a bad writer, so who knows?

Eierdiebe wrote:

Ishmael wrote:

Eierdiebe wrote: most women can't satisfy me. i haven't met my match.

I can see that. It would take a special kind of self-obsessed twit.

in some ways i am a very self-absorbed person, but i'm also exceptionally open to many people and things. my capacity for responsiveness, for living in the moment, is well above average. it's one of the things that's made me a good artist, being myopic but responsive and suggestible.

what i meant by "most women can't satisfy me" is that i need a lot of reassurance and most women haven't been able to give me this.

Reading this post, I can easily think of a couple of reasons why you are still wanking yourself to sleep. None of these involves "women".

Eierdiebe wrote:what i meant by "most women can't satisfy me" is that i need a lot of reassurance and most women haven't been able to give me this.

I kindly suggest that you cease looking for this "reassurance" in sexual relationships with women.

Tree wrote:What's it called when you're out with a couple of friends and one of these friends' girlfriend keeps calling and he doesn't answer, then she shows up to the bar sans underwear and bearing some cleavage and he becomes puddy and goes home with her and you sleep on his futon?

Friday night?

CRAP.


-Jeremy

sunlore wrote:Reading this post, I can easily think of a couple of reasons why you are still wanking yourself to sleep. None of these involves "women".

thank you for your $.02, sunlore, but i can assure you, i don't wank myself to sleep most nights (not these days anyway ---- which isn't to say i'm gettign laid all that much, in case you really care).

things are just very complicated for me. i've got a lot going on. why should it seem silly that "most women" don't satisfy me enough -- intellectually, emotionally, and sexually -- that i would put aside all my other interests to pursue a long-term relationship?

connor wrote:

Eierdiebe wrote:what i meant by "most women can't satisfy me" is that i need a lot of reassurance and most women haven't been able to give me this.

I kindly suggest that you cease looking for this "reassurance" in sexual relationships with women.

Thanks, Connor, but what i meant is, for me, a "booty call" is something of a consolation, for the lack of reassurance i'd be getting if i was in an okay (but not etirely fulfilling) relationship.