Stop thinking about what people are thinking about you, and just start thinking about other people for once (ie. your friends and acquaintances) and what you can do to make them happier.

I cured my teenage depression by starting to smoke cigarettes. Honestly it worked. Why do you think mental hospitals are about the only places you can light up in with impunity nowadays?

Plastic Hassle wrote:I cured my teenage depression by starting to smoke cigarettes. Honestly it worked. Why do you think mental hospitals are about the only places you can light up in with impunity nowadays?

I cured my crippling teenage depression by taking shitloads of ecstacy with my friends, it just went away after that

I read an interview with Hubert Selby, Jr. once, and he said that every bad thing that had ever befallen him was a result of his own self-pity. If you know anything about the man's life, this is a staggering statement, and for me, it amounted to a revelation. Most bad things, in my experience, stem from self-pity, and those that don't necessarily are a hell of a lot easier to take if one doesn't succumb to feeling sorry for oneself.

Brett Eugene Ralph wrote:I read an interview with Hubert Selby, Jr. once, and he said that every bad thing that had ever befallen him was a result of his own self-pity. If you know anything about the man's life, this is a staggering statement, and for me, it amounted to a revelation. Most bad things, in my experience, stem from self-pity, and those that don't necessarily are a hell of a lot easier to take if one doesn't succumb to feeling sorry for oneself.

That's a good piece of advice.

mr. ralph..

please provide the source text if you could..

i need more of this..
this Hubert Selby, Jr.

Self-measurement is one of the biggest causes of depression. Think of ways in which you might be comparing yourself to others. Or feeling challenged or assaulted by others. Anything you can think of that relates to you basing your self-concept on what other people do or think. This relates to your feelings of hostility towards friends. Or even self-measurement that doesn't relate to other people.

"I cannot be happy without this person's respect."
"This person thinks poorly of me."
"I need this thing in my life to be happy."
"I fucked this up, so I am a piece of shit."

Look at the irrationality of these statements. I'm willing to bet that you operate in this manner every day without even realizing it. Perhaps you feel defensive when someone offers advice - measurement. They have found a weakness in you, and you are a piece of shit for having that weakness. Defensive behavior like this is typical of depression. Think of why you are a piece of shit without so-and-so's respect, this thing you like, etc. UNCONDITIONAL SELF-ACCEPTANCE. You have a right to be the way you are, and nothing about other people makes them so special that they should have an impact on how you feel about yourself.

Think about it this way. Let's say you're an asshole to everyone and you feel guilty about it. Why do you feel guilty? Because you are affecting someone else's view of you. A negative view of you makes you a piece of shit. Irrational, no? You may have to deal with the consequences of being an asshole (ie, people getting pissed at you). But does it make you less of a person to have people be pissed off at you? No. Here's something great: nobody causes anyone elses emotions. You are not inside anyone elses head - they create their own emotions. If they are angry at you, they have made themselves angry. You have a right to be a dick, and if you want other people to respond to you differently, be nice to people. It doesn't mean that you are bad for having been a dick to someone. It means you were a dick, you are human, and you don't have to ponder "why was I such a dick" forever.

You are also not God. It's OK to have faults. Maturity will come, and it's alright if you aren't mature now. What makes you a piece of shit if you aren't mature? Maybe you're ugly too. Or you're a terrible fuck. What "god-given" responsibility do you have to be beautiful or a good lay? Perhaps a friend offering you a hand DOES make you less of a person. ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE LESS OF A PERSON. It's OK because you have a right and you don't have to feel bad that you are not the 100% ideal of what it is to be human. You might even be 37%. That's fine, you don't need the other 63% to be happy.

Just look at yourself and realize that you can be happy any old way you choose to be and don't measure yourself. Think about measurement and all the tiny, miniscule ways you do it. I'll bet there's more than you think. I'll bet you're a better person than you say, too.

Sometimes, shit just takes time.

But it also almost always takes effort.

Listen to this song, but don't watch the video cause it really takes away from the song.

Stare at the walls, close your eyes, whatever ya gotta do.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mhwufCg7THM

You're normal. Stop worrying about it and just lock yourself in your room with some olive oil for about a half hour. Otherwise, I got nothin'.

eva03 wrote:

honeyisfunny wrote:

that damned fly wrote:why's it all about you?

Just once - once - resist the temptation to be a total cock.

as far as I can tell he's going for the marsupialized route of humour except he's not nearly clever or funny enough.

no, i was serious in my remark.

:EDIT:
you wanted some insight into your "problem" and i gave you some. i got no answer, which i can only assume means you don't have one.

mostly though, it's probably depression. eat better, get some exercise. find a better hobby than thinking about yourself.