ERawk wrote:Well, FuzzBob, that sort of thing isn't so fucking easy to determine. I was in a horrible relationship with a guy once. He had the "nice guy" tag on him. Some of our close friends would say to me. "I can't imagine him getting into a temper or even screaming. He's just so nice".
kenoki wrote:most of the nice guys i hung out with weren't actually that nice underneath it all - more passive aggressive and full of ego in other ways - and they were clingy and not that hot.
I was coming here to say pretty much the same G.D. thing. I was engaged to some gorgeous Adonis of a "nice" guy who was a controlling, manipulative JERK. "But," everyone said, "He's like just like the
nicest guy" (swoon). Well, they didn't really know him. I was with him for 3.5 years and he was remarkably. fucking. twisted.
So, this is Bumble's Official Fuck You to "Nice"
"Nice" comes in a few different flavors:
- the guy who is "nice" on the surface but, around year two, lets his fucked-up-edness FLY (details are too creepy to share)
- the wet noodle nice guy who won't...do...anything. Ever.
- the manipulative, cloying "nice" guy who makes it impossible to say that you are unhappy about anything. Golly, he's
trying (not really) and he's just so
nice (not really).
What these dudes have in common is corralling public opinion to keep you where you are. I don't like being manipulated, I don't like being controlled. I want a partner. I value kindness a lot more than "nice".
Fuck you, nice!