kerble wrote:

Charlie D wrote:For real laughs, try being your ex's bandmate.

Not crap! (for the listening public, anyway)

Marsupialized wrote:You and your fucking girlfriend are nothing special, your situation is nothing special...it's all been done a billion times before.

It's special to him.

Importance is always relative. Important to Whom?
One cannot objectively measure It. It all depends on your perspective.

We may be small and weak beings compared to the greatness and vastness of the universe, but our life is a world in itself relative to the complexity of its divisions. One could point that the greatness of the universe is an illusion of relative perspective.

You have something important in your life. That's all you need to know, It's all that matters.
The greatness of the universe doest mean anything compared to it.

242sumner wrote:

Marsupialized wrote:You and your fucking girlfriend are nothing special, your situation is nothing special...it's all been done a billion times before.

It's special to him.

Importance is always relative. Important to Whom?
One cannot objectively measure It. It all depends on your perspective.

We may be small and weak beings compared to the greatness and vastness of the universe, but our life is a world in itself relative to the complexity of its divisions. One could point that the greatness of the universe is an illusion of relative perspective.

You have something important in your life. That's all you need to know, It's all that matters.
The greatness of the universe doest mean anything compared to it.

To place such great importance into something as fluid and unpredictable as another human being is just asking for trouble. If you are the type who would allow such trivial things as the minute to minute feelings of another human being towards you to become larger than life and destroy and cripple you for years after, dunno, you are gonna spend a LOT of time bummed out.

Yes, it's fun to date and meet people and get along. 99% of the time you go in knowing that will run it course at some point. Yes it sucks from time to time, but that's the game. If you are unwilling or unable to abide by the rules you shouldn't play the game. The rules have always been the same, this is nothing new.

I'm still good friends with my ex of 9 years. Her current boyfriend is a acquaintance who used to date my current girlfriend. Not to mention she and my current girlfriend are best buds. Shit, even my parents still hang out with her.

In general, if you were with someone seriously, it's because that person is, in your opinion, a decent a human being with a good heart who you would like to share numerous experiences with. Yeah, breaking up conjures a lot of weird feelings. But after a while, why would you not want to stay friends with someone you've shared so much with? To me, it would be like telling one of your parents, you don't want to see them -ever again- after they said some accidentally mean things in a fit of rage when you were 13.

Is it unusual? Sure. Is it crap? Nope.

Marsupialized wrote:To place such great importance into something as fluid and unpredictable as another human being is just asking for trouble.

good quote.

kerble wrote:

Charlie D wrote:For real laughs, try being your ex's bandmate.

Try being in a band with your ex's current boyfriend. How does that grab ya?

Colonel Panic wrote:

kerble wrote:

Charlie D wrote:For real laughs, try being your ex's bandmate.

Try being in a band with your ex's current boyfriend.

ouch.

Marsupialized wrote:Getting so wrapped up in another human being is probably not such a good idea.

It's probably one of the worst idea one might have during his/her life span. Thing that sucks is there is probably only one way to learn this.





Holy shit, what I have just wrote sounds absolutely pathetic.

kerble wrote:

Colonel Panic wrote:

kerble wrote:

Charlie D wrote:For real laughs, try being your ex's bandmate.

Try being in a band with your ex's current boyfriend.

ouch.

It wasn't so bad as you might think. After practice, when we were packing up to go home, I used to tell him, "Tell [his gf and my ex] 'fuck you' from me." And he'd tell her. We'd all laugh about it the next time we got together.

We were all friends, and he knew that there was no question in my mind of us getting back together. I was dating somebody else by that point and had stopped even thinking about her as a potential girlfriend anymore. Truth be told, the fact that she was dating this guy (my bandmate) made her seem a lot less attractive in my eyes. Once, while he was drunk and acting like a jackass after a show, she turned to me and asked, "Isn't he great? He's so funny!" I just rolled my eyes and went over to settle him down before he ended up costing us the night's pay, or worse.

that damned fly wrote:

Marsupialized wrote:To place such great importance into something as fluid and unpredictable as another human being is just asking for trouble.

good quote.

Esp. from a married guy.