Barbo wrote:If it would really affect your life a great deal and you are considering spending your life with this person, I cannot see how they are fully removed from the situation. Seriously.

Jon

Well, should I turn down a month of work for a decent wage just b/c I'll be out of town for a month? "What will I do while you're gone?"

givemenoughrope wrote:

Kayte R. wrote:You are probably being a bonehead and it's driving her insane.

Wow, thanks. I should just dump myself then.

No, you should just try to stop being a bonehead. I can tell that's what you're doing because of how you are desperately trying to put the blame for the situation not even on her being crazy but "all women". You're being a boner dude.

We all tend to make broad generalizations when we're frustrated or feeling lost - I don't take the "are all women crazy" question as more than that.

However, if I should, let me know so I can give you what-for.

Often, people are a mixture of different cluster-B personality disorders (the lists that were posted above). I grew up with a woman who was a funbag of histrionic and borderline, and whoooo doggie that was a hoot.

I feel for you, man.

The only thing I can say is that you can't reason with crazy. Crazy such as histrionic/borderline is like water that will find its way through the cracks no matter what you throw at it. It's all about the activity of being bonkers, not the subject matter.

Anyhow, good luck.

To be blunt: Have you considered moving on?

DrAwkward wrote:

The Code is Almighty wrote:This is my problem. I want nothing to do with sane girls.

Just sayin'.

While you sound like just about everyone I know, I swear that this is not case.

Crazy girls seem to be the only ones that I can fool into thinking that I'm interesting.

Kayte R. wrote:

givemenoughrope wrote:

Kayte R. wrote:You are probably being a bonehead and it's driving her insane.

Wow, thanks. I should just dump myself then.

No, you should just try to stop being a bonehead. I can tell that's what you're doing because of how you are desperately trying to put the blame for the situation not even on her being crazy but "all women". You're being a boner dude.

I think he's just venting.

givemenoughrope wrote:

Barbo wrote:If it would really affect your life a great deal and you are considering spending your life with this person, I cannot see how they are fully removed from the situation. Seriously.

Jon

Well, should I turn down a month of work for a decent wage just b/c I'll be out of town for a month? "What will I do while you're gone?"

Oh, okay, you may be a little bit of a bonehead. That may be chemically reacting with her problems to create new and novel forms of relationship fuck-ups.

Any straight dude without a woman at his side turns into an boozed-up, rambling, shopping-cart pushing shut-in eventually.

Any straight woman without a dude will probably end up doing just fine.

So guess the loon, eh.

The Code is Almighty wrote:

Kayte R. wrote:

givemenoughrope wrote:

Kayte R. wrote:You are probably being a bonehead and it's driving her insane.

Wow, thanks. I should just dump myself then.

No, you should just try to stop being a bonehead. I can tell that's what you're doing because of how you are desperately trying to put the blame for the situation not even on her being crazy but "all women". You're being a boner dude.

I think he's just venting.

I'm not venting. I'm asking. I'm not putting it on "all women". I'm asking a question. Are they crazy or do I just not understand them?

I would much rather be a boner/bonehead than be the sane person in the relationship.

bumble wrote:

givemenoughrope wrote:

Barbo wrote:If it would really affect your life a great deal and you are considering spending your life with this person, I cannot see how they are fully removed from the situation. Seriously.

Jon

Well, should I turn down a month of work for a decent wage just b/c I'll be out of town for a month? "What will I do while you're gone?"

Oh, okay, you may be a little bit of a bonehead. That may be chemically reacting with her problems to create new and novel forms of relationship fuck-ups.

Did I type that incorrectly? I've decided to take some work out of town. Work is money and nothing to mess around with. it could also lead to more work that is not out of town. it's fairly important.

I guess I'm a bonehead.

givemenoughrope wrote:Well, should I turn down a month of work for a decent wage just b/c I'll be out of town for a month? "What will I do while you're gone?"

This is actually not the question she wants to ask, it is simply the question that will let you know she prefers you not leave. It a confused way of letting you know she enjoys your company but is afraid of what could happen if you do leave. She is probably avoiding the questions that could possibly have detrimental effects on you relationship.

"Is this a one time thing?"
"Why do you have to leave town to find work?"
"Is our relationship strong enough to survive the possibility of you being gone for a month?"

Our of curiosity, does your possible out of town job have anything to do with touring with a band?

Jon