givemenoughrope wrote:She basically isn't compensated fairly. Her average salary is would be fine for a 40-45 hr week but it's worth about half. There is no sign of anything slowing down. Instead of confronting them and getting paid what she is worth she would rather just say 'fuck it' and quit a job that she actually enjoys.
This has absolutely nothing to do with crazy. It has everything to do with a sense of loyalty and responsibility. She is probably operating with the notion that eventually this job will pay off. This is common. I have certainly been there. She enjoys what she does but feels guilty asking for more, most likely due to a diminished view-accurate or not-of her worth to the company. Were she to ask for more money and get denied it would affirm her low sense of worth and make her feel terrible. By quitting, she avoids it all together. She is not crazy, just lacking in confidence is all. More than likely you are not helping in this department.
Her lack of enthusiasm for your touring job has nothing to do with the fact that you have always been good on tour before. You have not made her feel confident enough in the relationship to trust your actions while in a van/bus boosing it up with your buddies. She is most likely also jealous of the fun she perceives you will have while she will be at home busting her ass 90 hours a week. This is understandable but unfortunately the sign of a weak relationship.
Jon