losthighway wrote: Mon Jan 22, 2024 5:10 pm
There is an important problem here getting obscured by some unavoidable internet debate fire. What can a fellow traveler offer a family member or old friend that might help them see things a little differently? Don't get me wrong, if someone is comfortable erasing the existence or identity of their lgbtq family member only therapy can save them. But like, who knows someone who shifted their hard right views into something a little more tolerant?
My father in law is a Trump supporter. He's generally socially aware enough not to say some bullshit around my wife and me. He has made some horrendously stupid racist jokes against Asians (he's a Vietnam vet) which I've stared down and he's rolled off as "Ha, that's terrible".
Obviously I'm not pretending I'm going to turn racist old men into socialist activists, but the needle must move a little with some people, right?
I don't know what you can do. I've seen people in my orbit who are Trump supporters, cons, neo cons, etc. just dig in their heels. The common interaction for this kind of shit is online, where yelling, screaming, insulting and generally unproductive behavior are obviously prevalent. This behavior also helps reinforce whatever beliefs you're either echoing or refuting, and allows you to "practice" the refutations for real life - IE each side has already heard the argument from the other side and have their counters already prepared. A lot of people are truly incapable - in the "they cannot make their brain do it" sense of the word - of interfacing with concepts that threaten their worldview/political beliefs. So they adopt a fight response to these ideas.
I think there's a reason that the people who are mostly arguing against progress are the same people who think they need to take over public schools and colleges and have local "authority" determine history lessons and eliminate any critical thinking pursuits. Productive discourse is seen as weak. Competing viewpoints aren't seen as compatible, they're seen as targets to eliminate.
It's an easy trap for people who want order and aren't capable of dealing with a complex and violent world - conservatism has evolved into authoritarianism naturally and authoritarians are not known for flexibility, empathy or compassion.
IOW and teal deer, fascists can't learn empathy.
If this post sounds like I'm advocating that a marketplace of ideas is good, let me be clear - ideas are not inherently worthy of pursuit, and ideas that have been established as objectively negative - eugenics, race supremacies, dehumanization of any kind - should be immediately called out for what they are and the people advocating them should have their communications quarantined from productive discussion. One of the main problems of the "marketplace of ideas" is that its advocates seem to think that bad ideas will work themselves out, like their precious free market is supposed to work. This notion is very clearly false and all evidence screams otherwise.