Hex wrote: Thu Nov 07, 2024 3:54 am I am disabled with no income and no college degree. It is basically impossible for me to immigrate to another country, let alone with my entire family, who I absolutely could not leave behind. I’ve even looked into applying under asylum but most countries have agreements with the US that designate the country as “safe” (which is beyond absolute bullshit) and so people from here won’t even be considered

You are likely going to have to leave your family behind, in order to thrive elsewhere. I am assuming - and please correct me if I'm wrong - that your family are safer than you in that environment.

I'll cut you a deal, right now, based on nothing but confidence in my own endeavour. If you're willing to make the jump, I'll get you out of there, to somewhere better, within six months.

My family are all my trans partners and friends and are not any safer than me, we help take care of each other and we’re all in this together. I’m not talking about my biological “family”, almost all of who voted for Trump and most of who have been dead to me for almost a decade, I’m talking about my real one. There is no way in hell I could ever be happy leaving them behind. I already want to die but death would be even more preferable to me than that

Hex wrote: Thu Nov 07, 2024 4:24 am My family are all my trans partners and friends and are not any safer than me, we help take care of each other and we’re all in this together. I’m not talking about my biological “family”, almost all of who voted for Trump and most of who have been dead to me for almost a decade, I’m talking about my real one. There is no way in hell I could ever be happy leaving them behind. I already want to die but death would be even more preferable to me than that

Apologies. I had assumed you meant biological family. I appreciate what you're saying then - I don't think any of us would leave our people behind in good conscience.

For Hex, and anyone else who is having a difficult time feeling targeted by our country, and by the election results. A friend sent along a list of LGBTQ+ mental health resources:

Trans Lifeline: (877)565-8860
LGBT National Hotline: (888)843-4564
National Suicide Crisis Lifeline: 988 and text PRIDE for LGBTQ+ services
Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741-741

bigc wrote: Thu Nov 07, 2024 11:55 am For Hex, and anyone else who is having a difficult time feeling targeted by our country, and by the election results. A friend sent along a list of LGBTQ+ mental health resources:

Trans Lifeline: (877)565-8860
LGBT National Hotline: (888)843-4564
National Suicide Crisis Lifeline: 988 and text PRIDE for LGBTQ+ services
Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741-741

I want to note that the last two on that list are mandated reporter lines and they are required to report calls regarding suicide to the police, so use at your own risk. Trans Lifeline is explicitly divested from the police and the LGBT National Hotline states they will not contact any authorities on your behalf

i know of at least two suicides among trans friends and their relatives over the last couple days, one of whom was a teenager, and at least three more among people outside my immediate community. I can’t express here what I want to do to every last piece of shit who supported trump. I am so fucking enraged at this awful fucking piece of shit world and the awful fucking piece of shit people in it

I believe it. Our president cannot help trans kids. Whoever told them that is a liar.

Hex, please don't direct that rage at yourself. Save it for the people who deserve it. Every living trans person is a thumb in the eye of a transphobe. Don't do the work for them.

My girlfriend attempted suicide tonight. Her abusive ex has been threatening harm to us and herself after she broke up with her and told her she didn’t want to be in contact with her anymore, and on Monday things escalated to the point where she drove over to our apartment threatening to call the cops and that she was waiting for my gf to come out and that she (my gf’s ex) was going to die one way or another. We had no choice but to call the police and she was intercepted a block away and taken to a hospital. The police told us to unblock her so that anything she messages can be used for a restraining order or further action.

Then tonight, while my girlfriend was at work, the threats escalated towards my gf, me, our mutual partner, and a close friend. My gf sent us all a message saying she was sorry we’ve been put through all this and didn’t know any other way out. I called her asking what she meant by that. She didn’t answer, but then she called back, told me that she meant her life, and said that she went to a park, cut open a vein, and that she was sorry, loved me, and that everything would be over soon.

I can’t adequately express in words how I felt. Terrified, scared, I called 911, told them what happened and what parks I thought it could be at. I called my other partner, and I drove to one location while the police searched a different park and my partner searched another one. This was around 2am, pitch black, up against lake erie. She wasn’t where I looked, and the police said they couldn’t find her at the other park. I feared the worst, I drove in pouring rain crying my eyes out.

Then I got a message from my partner’s partner saying they found her, slumped up against a willow tree overlooking the lake at one of the parks. She was bleeding out. They called ems and I rushed over there. I made it there but ems hadn’t arrived yet. We stayed with her and put pressure on her wound until I saw flashing lights in the distance and I ran as fast as I could to get their attention to show them where she was.

She was still alive, and conscious. She expressed how sorry she was, I reassured her that I was just glad she was alive and that everything would be ok. They took her to the hospital. We all went there, to be with her. She’s doing better, they stitched her up and are going to keep her there overnight and see if she is going to an inpatient unit or not. I’m at my other partner’s right now, about to finally sleep.

If I had gone to sleep a little earlier, she wouldn’t be here. I can’t imagine life without her, we’ve been together for years, I love living with her, the feeling I felt when I didn’t know where she was or if she was alive or dead was the worst thing I’ve ever experienced in my life. I want to do everything I can for her.

I'm glad your girlfriend is OK.