Frankie99 wrote: Mon Feb 24, 2025 6:09 pm

eephus wrote: Sat Feb 22, 2025 11:00 pm please don't let the cats know i said that.

Spoiler: They wouldn't care.

if they're anything like mine they would.

Jeff man, I just read this post. FUCK I love you and Troy so much. That pain is the worst. You're both in our hearts through this.

Hex wrote: Fri Feb 28, 2025 2:37 pm i am in so much pain and it’s not letting up, i’m scared, i’m tired, i hate this awful world so much, i want all the suffering to end forever so much, it’s not fair and it hurts

you are right, it's not fair. i wish i had some words of comfort. i hope you get some relief soon.

Not having enough capacity for this moment, and feeling guilty about it, is definitely a thing. We got some real punch-in-the-gut, unexpected news on Tues that'll shake up our lives. We'll mostly be fine (which I also feel guilty about, millions of others might not be), but I probably haven't been staying up to speed on the latest ICE horrors or Trans scapegoating. I don't think my partner has slept all week. And I'm sure there will be some horror show by next week that makes this week look like a blip.

I get to see some friends tonight for the second day in a row. Ran into some other friends walking the dogs, and got invited to another thing. An hour of camaraderie here and there and maybe a few laughs definitely goes a long way.

Wife is recovering from a radical hysterectomy (stage one vaginal cancer). The doctor butchered her up real good - ripped her ureters out, etc. My entire family is ill with this nasty flu thing that everyone has. Even my old Beagle is sick.

I've started having a recurring nightmare where my wife is moving out of the house. It seems pretty obvious that subconsciously I'm afraid she's going to die. I don't have a ton of extra cash, so I can't see a therapist in the foreseeable future.

Does anyone have a night-time ritual I can steal from them? I gotta get some sleep. Thanks for reading - I appreciate it.

I have a Kindle that’s back lit. I almost always use it to read going to sleep or if I wake up in the night. It shuts down my “monkey mind” and allows me to no get into a thought spiral.

There’s also the sleep trick they evidently teach soldiers. Lie on your back, consciously relax your face and clear your thoughts. The last part is kind of mindfulness because you need to keep coming back to clear them. Are there any ex-service people here? I’m not sure if this one is bullshit. But I find it good for day naps.

And best wishes to you and your wife. I’ve been through a lot over the past year. Cancer blows.

It's not necessarily enjoyable, but I find that focused house cleaning (esp kitchen or floors ) wears me out in a way that helps with sleep. Also, having a clean(er) house in the morning is nice.

AttackChimp wrote: Sat Mar 01, 2025 10:52 am Wife is recovering from a radical hysterectomy (stage one vaginal cancer). The doctor butchered her up real good - ripped her ureters out, etc. My entire family is ill with this nasty flu thing that everyone has. Even my old Beagle is sick.

I've started having a recurring nightmare where my wife is moving out of the house. It seems pretty obvious that subconsciously I'm afraid she's going to die. I don't have a ton of extra cash, so I can't see a therapist in the foreseeable future.

Does anyone have a night-time ritual I can steal from them? I gotta get some sleep. Thanks for reading - I appreciate it.

Magnesium and calcium in a 2:1 ratio. Mugicha tea (Japanese roasted barley) with honey.

Try either or both together.

Good luck and best wishes for you and your wife.

Thanks very much. Gunna take all this in an try them out. Restlessness and nervousness is what I experience in the middle of the night. Cleaning, reading to clear the mind, Magnesium and calcium, Mugicha tea (Japanese roasted barley) with honey - gunna try `em all.

Thanks for the kindness.

Sometimes when I need to sleep but can't, I lay on the bed, face down on my knees (Kinda like the posture many babies take when they sleep) and then I try to hold that position a few minutes, until my thighs start to hurt. Then I stretch my body completely and keep laying face down. It works 2 of every 3 of the times or so.

Best wishes for all you people.

Some physical tricks to help with anxiety: box breathing. Inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 4, exhale for 7 seconds, hold for 4, repeat 3 or 4 times. Has calmed my nervers. Some say (the good old some say) it helps you to fall asleep as well.

This I haven't tried for long, but it's easy and takes few seconds, so you might as well try: lie on your back, put your hand behind your head, relax. Orientate your eyes to your three o'clock and wait for a yawn or sigh. And that's it. It's weird, I usually yawn in 3 seconds or so. I maybe feel a bit calmer after that, but I haven't tried it when truly anxious, so it might be BS.