I dated a woman with 2 kids, which she never brought out when we were together and didn't expect me to have a relationship with them. Which was ok by me. She was a nymphomaniac. It was weird. Not the sex mind you, just her lack of interest in her kids. which brought about my guilt and my eventual breaking off of the crazy sex.
Crap.
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12Marsupialized wrote:Bradley R. Weissenberger wrote:Whether or not you should date a woman with children depends on three factors:
1. Is this woman a "hot chick"?
2. Is this woman your "roommate"?
3. Does this woman let you "bang" her?
These are the issues that you need to consider.
The title of the thread you speak of, that caused so much static with the nerds was hot GIRL roommate you don't bang, you pulled the CHICK part out of your ass...see how information gets twisted around to suit people's needs?
You forgot to mention the part about the chick's link to Al Qaida and her stockpile of weapons of mass destruction.
Those were my real points.
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13Does this count as an "older woman: milf" crap/not crap topic? Or would that be something separate? has that been done already? Am i just laying the groundwork for more inanery?
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14DrAwkward wrote:Does this count as an "older woman: milf" crap/not crap topic? Or would that be something separate? has that been done already? Am i just laying the groundwork for more inanery?
2 totally different things, dude. There's this new thing, it's called young women having kids, they just started it.
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15Marsupialized wrote:DrAwkward wrote:Does this count as an "older woman: milf" crap/not crap topic? Or would that be something separate? has that been done already? Am i just laying the groundwork for more inanery?
2 totally different things, dude. There's this new thing, it's called young women having kids, they just started it.
"Activity: Making babies with babies having babies." Got it.
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16DrAwkward wrote:Marsupialized wrote:DrAwkward wrote:Does this count as an "older woman: milf" crap/not crap topic? Or would that be something separate? has that been done already? Am i just laying the groundwork for more inanery?
2 totally different things, dude. There's this new thing, it's called young women having kids, they just started it.
"Activity: Making babies with babies having babies." Got it.
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18If you want a relationship shit easy and hassle free, with no baggage and very little risk, then avoid the one with a kid, because you are selfish and not ready.
Honestly, if you met somebody you really had a connection with, but ended it because they had a child, then you need to take a hard look at yourself.
Nothing positive comes without struggle and sacrifice.
"This person I met is so aswesome, we get along so well, have so much in common, makes me feel so good..... oh, shit, you have a kid? guess i wasnt feeling those things after all."
Dont want no damn kid getting in the way of my need for attention and my desire to get to fuckin' whenever I want. Fuck that shit. ------ like, dont hate the playa', hate the game!
Honestly, if you met somebody you really had a connection with, but ended it because they had a child, then you need to take a hard look at yourself.
Nothing positive comes without struggle and sacrifice.
"This person I met is so aswesome, we get along so well, have so much in common, makes me feel so good..... oh, shit, you have a kid? guess i wasnt feeling those things after all."
Dont want no damn kid getting in the way of my need for attention and my desire to get to fuckin' whenever I want. Fuck that shit. ------ like, dont hate the playa', hate the game!
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19Marsupialized wrote:DrAwkward wrote:Marsupialized wrote:DrAwkward wrote:Does this count as an "older woman: milf" crap/not crap topic? Or would that be something separate? has that been done already? Am i just laying the groundwork for more inanery?
2 totally different things, dude. There's this new thing, it's called young women having kids, they just started it.
"Activity: Making babies with babies having babies." Got it.
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Oh, don't be so uptight.
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20Capn, I agree with several things you've posted on this messageboard, but this tirade is complete bullshit.
It is entirely possible for a someone to have plenty of "baggage" on his or her own. Believe it or not, a relationship can be filled with risk and hassle for any number of reasons, plenty of which have nothing to do with whether one (or both) of the folks involved has any kids.
It is disingenuous for you to use the phrase "selfish and not ready" to imply that someone who does not want to get involved with someone with children lacks some lofty state of mental/emotional maturity or enlightenment at which you presumably feel you have arrived. I think that you owe it to yourself to be selfish when deciding who you want to make a long-term commitment to, and if you do not like children, or don't want to commit yourself to someone with a child for whatever reason, then it is best for all parties involved if you cease your romantic involvement with this person post-haste.
It is entirely reasonable to have your own best interest in mind when trying to sort out, you know, who you want to try to spend your life with (depending on how serious you are, of course). I don't see how this means you aren't "ready," unless you mean "not ready" for being around kids. I'd never get involved with someone with kids. I don't want children of my own, and I generally don't like children, so I've avoided relationships with people who have them. Again, this is in the best interest of everyone involved.
Not necessarily. No matter how much you've connected with someone, if you are considering a long-term relationship with someone but don't think you could contribute constructively to the life of their kid, then you should probably walk away. I fail to see how this is anything but decent and reasonable.
Sometimes it isn't the best idea to act on every "good" feeling you have. I would guess that, for most people, finding out that someone they have feelings for has a child doesn't negate those feelings. However, if this person knows they have no interest in helping to raise a child, then I don't think they're wrong to give pause to those feelings and act rationally rather than proceeding with a relationship that has a major strike against it from the outset. I don't think this necessarily says anything about this person's maturity, so much as it does their personal preferences for how they want to live their life. Self interest is a fine thing to consider here.
Nonsense. Not everyone who doesn't like (or doesn't want to be around, or doesn't want to raise) children has some infantile need for constant attention, sexual or otherwise, from their significant other. I'm sure there are people like that out there, but to insinuate that this is the only reason someone would possibly avoid a relationship with someone who has reproduced is very specious.
I know I've repeated myself here, but I really think that you have to act according to your self-interest when deciding whether or not to start a relationship. There isn't anything wrong with it. I hope this makes sense.
capnreverb wrote:If you want a relationship shit easy and hassle free, with no baggage and very little risk, then avoid the one with a kid, because you are selfish and not ready.
It is entirely possible for a someone to have plenty of "baggage" on his or her own. Believe it or not, a relationship can be filled with risk and hassle for any number of reasons, plenty of which have nothing to do with whether one (or both) of the folks involved has any kids.
It is disingenuous for you to use the phrase "selfish and not ready" to imply that someone who does not want to get involved with someone with children lacks some lofty state of mental/emotional maturity or enlightenment at which you presumably feel you have arrived. I think that you owe it to yourself to be selfish when deciding who you want to make a long-term commitment to, and if you do not like children, or don't want to commit yourself to someone with a child for whatever reason, then it is best for all parties involved if you cease your romantic involvement with this person post-haste.
It is entirely reasonable to have your own best interest in mind when trying to sort out, you know, who you want to try to spend your life with (depending on how serious you are, of course). I don't see how this means you aren't "ready," unless you mean "not ready" for being around kids. I'd never get involved with someone with kids. I don't want children of my own, and I generally don't like children, so I've avoided relationships with people who have them. Again, this is in the best interest of everyone involved.
capnreverb wrote:Honestly, if you met somebody you really had a connection with, but ended it because they had a child, then you need to take a hard look at yourself...
Not necessarily. No matter how much you've connected with someone, if you are considering a long-term relationship with someone but don't think you could contribute constructively to the life of their kid, then you should probably walk away. I fail to see how this is anything but decent and reasonable.
capnreverb wrote:"This person I met is so aswesome, we get along so well, have so much in common, makes me feel so good..... oh, shit, you have a kid? guess i wasnt feeling those things after all."
Sometimes it isn't the best idea to act on every "good" feeling you have. I would guess that, for most people, finding out that someone they have feelings for has a child doesn't negate those feelings. However, if this person knows they have no interest in helping to raise a child, then I don't think they're wrong to give pause to those feelings and act rationally rather than proceeding with a relationship that has a major strike against it from the outset. I don't think this necessarily says anything about this person's maturity, so much as it does their personal preferences for how they want to live their life. Self interest is a fine thing to consider here.
capnreverb wrote:Dont want no damn kid getting in the way of my need for attention and my desire to get to fuckin' whenever I want. Fuck that shit. ------ like, dont hate the playa', hate the game!
Nonsense. Not everyone who doesn't like (or doesn't want to be around, or doesn't want to raise) children has some infantile need for constant attention, sexual or otherwise, from their significant other. I'm sure there are people like that out there, but to insinuate that this is the only reason someone would possibly avoid a relationship with someone who has reproduced is very specious.
I know I've repeated myself here, but I really think that you have to act according to your self-interest when deciding whether or not to start a relationship. There isn't anything wrong with it. I hope this makes sense.
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