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Well the request for unpaid leave to do a tour went up the flagpole and got shot down from the top.

No tour for me.

I'm super disappointed. I couldn't sleep last night, I was so stoked about it.

Feh.

dontfeartheringo wrote: Tue Aug 27, 2024 3:28 pm Well the request for unpaid leave to do a tour went up the flagpole and got shot down from the top.

No tour for me.

I'm super disappointed. I couldn't sleep last night, I was so stoked about it.

Feh.

Total bummer.....good on you for putting family first. Can you reveal who the band was?

I have an IT job at a local college where I'm paid well, respected (I think) and where "work" typically doesn't intersect with "life" in negative ways. I also have a wife, a mortgage and a 10 year old son. Music has been a part of my life for over 40 years and the need to make art and be creatively engaged is an essential nutrient to my soul and I go to dark places when deprived of that. I've always made music in the niche, semi-pro world most of us inhabit, and yes, it's an unrealized dream of mine to make music my day job, in a manner that isn't itself soul-sucking. So far that hasn't come close to panning out!

Patrick, I would not advise you what to do and I would not have any judgement, spoken or unspoken. But I think I get your motivation and dilemma. IF IT WERE ME WITH THIS OPPORTUNITY I think the money, job security matters could work themselves out. What would be a massive bummer is leaving my son for month-long timespans. He's at a point now where he can curate his own self-interests, has a meaningful group of friends and the way he's in my life seems to evolve so fast, I'm scared I'm going to lose him if I don't actively keep up with where life is taking him.

I wouldn't want to imply that you don't deal with these same concerns, and I know you have gone out on the road for a while and still are a great parent, as are many other touring musicians. But it's really great right now where my kid is at a point where we can explore and learn together and have real conversations and I know that time period isn't gonna last forever.

I bet it's a kind of bummer to not be joining The Rock Show but ten years 'til pension sounds pretty dang good to me right now.

I am right now dealing with some octogenarians who really, REALLY could have planned a little better for their old age and financial well-being.

dontfeartheringo wrote: Tue Aug 27, 2024 3:28 pm Well the request for unpaid leave to do a tour went up the flagpole and got shot down from the top.

No tour for me.

I'm super disappointed. I couldn't sleep last night, I was so stoked about it.

Feh.

Oh no! I'm sorry to hear that! Sending best wishes for some good news coming your way to balance it out.

dontfeartheringo wrote: Tue Aug 27, 2024 3:28 pm Well the request for unpaid leave to do a tour went up the flagpole and got shot down from the top.

No tour for me.

I'm super disappointed. I couldn't sleep last night, I was so stoked about it.

Feh.

Do. The. Tour.

Repeated viewings of that terrible house coupled with lightning flashes and the low rumble of thunder outside is effectively keeping me from sleeping.

I guess this is what I wanted.

Rick from Torche is doing it, and I am confident that he will absolutely crush it.

But I also am having a bit of a sad.

dontfeartheringo wrote: Wed Aug 28, 2024 7:45 am Rick from Torche is doing it, and I am confident that he will absolutely crush it.

But I also am having a bit of a sad.

Totally understandable! The must-be-in-office approach is nonsense and ridiculously rigid. Though...that tour has no Pittsburgh stop.

dontfeartheringo wrote: Wed Aug 28, 2024 7:45 am Rick from Torche is doing it, and I am confident that he will absolutely crush it.

But I also am having a bit of a sad.

Oh man, I fucking knew it! I saw them a couple months ago, so good.
Really like that new record.

I'm sorry it's not your turn, but you would've nailed it!