Very sorry about your nonna, Pasta.
Vibracobra wrote: Mon Aug 26, 2024 3:39 am
If your wife told you she's ok with it cause she knows it would make you super happy then go for it. You both have to agree on these kind of matters.
On the other hand, because she is a super cool wife, she is likely to tell him to do it if it makes him feel good, even if it doesn’t make her feel good. And then he has to be comfortable doing something that doesn’t feel good to someone who’s been through a pretty frightening health situation, not to mention being away from that beloved person having probably more fun than she is on any given day.
I’m not trying to guilt Patrick here, because I know he’ll do the thing that is most true to his values and right for the situation, and I’m not even saying that I know what the right answer is. I’m just playing devil’s advocate regarding your comment, because she could be totally supportive and still be happier if he stayed home. I think it depends how much of a difference it is going to make for her, and weigh that against how awesome the gig is. if it’s a level of things that you’ve never got to do before, then it’s important to do it so you don’t resent her or yourself. But again, I’m not really talking to Patrick because I know whatever happens will be the most righteous thing because that’s how he rolls.