Thanks for yalls help! I did try a ribbon (coles bbc lip mic) and while it dulled the sound it also made it kind of unexciting. That mic is either a winner or a loser every time, no in between. Had a similar experience in the past with a big EV 665 type of mic in front of the tambourine - mics with a certain response just feel like they don’t record the tambourine very well. I should have grabbed the damn M160 and didn’t but I’ll just keep busting out the tambourines every time I setup a mic to see how it fares.
Trying it at the drums did help - I had a Beyer MC930 on OH and the same bbc lip mic on snare with a C38B in omni for the room where I was going for kind of a Holy Modal Rounders thing bussed to a mono group track. I just played the tambourine behind the set and it was still too bright, but I did like it much better with all three mics going and giving it some space. I ended up using a shaker instead.
I think I need to just keep trying different mics with the tambourines every time I’m setting up to record something else. I find that pulling out too many mics for one source is a time suck and that I’m better off just pulling out one at a time and playing with placement rather than dealing with 4 or 5 live mics on stands.
I can probably also just whack it with a compressor by default. Didn’t even ever keep a take long enough to play with eq.
Should also try in a bigger room as I did notice I got better sounds when I was blocking off as much as possible with the gobos.
Anyways, tambourines!