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Adultery: Crap/Not Crap?

Crap
Total votes: 34 (85%)
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Total votes: 6 (15%)
Total votes: 40

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31 by vockins_Archive
Gramsci wrote:Go for it.

See if it works, talk about it, and be prepared to leave your current partners.

It's your life and as long as children aren't involved the worst that can happen is some serious short-term hurt from respective partners, who will get over it.

Your happiness is what counts.


Not a lot of guns in NZ or London, are there?

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32 by geiginni_Archive
Another thing to consider, before you go through with this:

If you and this married woman are genuinely serious about each other and truely in love, would you not feel much more comforable entering into a serious relationship with each other knowing that each of you are an honest person?

It would seem that if both of you have the capacity to be dishonest with your current partners, that dishonesty might be endemic to both of you in your future relationship together, and create an atmosphere of distrust. Would it not?

On the other hand, if you two are honest with your partners now, and enter into a relationship, you can do so knowing that you can trust each other to be just as straightforward.

This is assuming that you two have an interest in each other that goes beyond a short-term fuckfest.
Marsupialized wrote:Right now somewhere nearby there is a fat video game nerd in his apartment fucking a pretty hot girl he met off craigslist. God bless that craig and his list.

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34 by Adam CR
sunlore wrote:These situations seem to occur a lot in the workplace, and the reason for it is boredom.

I don't know if this is the case with you lovebirds, but if so, I'd advise you to leave it be. It's silly to invest in anything that grows out of boredom.

Watch some sleaze or something.

I don't know why you would post this stuff on an internet board such as this one. Are you having second thoughts?

Because I think you should. Be having them.


So good, this post.

Salut, Mssr Sunlore.

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35 by STF_Archive
I've considered the whole If She Does it to Him She'll... but that doesn't bother me too much. I'll take that chance. I think the point is we have NOT done anything yet and have delayed doing anything with the hope that maybe the feeling passes. So we haven't really done anything wrong except admiting to an attraction, becoming closer, and keeping it from our partners.

Now I am prepared to take steps necessary for having a relationship with her. If I can't I'll stay with my girlfriend, who I care about but am not head-over-heels for anymore. You don't have to be crazy about your partner all the time. It's more important to get along, enjoy each others company, and be attracted to them. But this other girl is, in my mind, a once-in-a-lifetime-type girl. So of course I want to try and have her.

In the meantime, we're getting to know each other. And it may turn out that it cools off and we decide to stay where we are before any fucking.

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36 by DrAwkward_Archive
Gramsci wrote:So people should stay unhappily in a relationship, even if they meet someone else they love or may come to love, just because upsetting someone else for a couple of months is "selfish"?

That doesn't seem very sensible to me... especially considering you will come to resent your current partner.


It seems that the general consensus of the thread is that he should not stay with his current partner because the relationship is unhappy, regardless of whether or not he fucks this other girl.

At least, that's my take.
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37 by grangle_Archive
Gramsci wrote:So people should stay unhappily in a relationship, even if they meet someone else they love or may come to love, just because upsetting someone else for a couple of months is "selfish"?

That doesn't seem very sensible to me... especially considering you will come to resent your current partner.


if you're unhappily in a relationship, you should just break up with the person that's making you unhappy. wouldn't you rather that your partner tell you they're not happy, break up with you and then fuck someone else? and the whole 'you're just hurting someone for a few months' sounds like a copout to me. have you been there? hurt really bad? if you've been with someone for a while and you break up with them in an honest way, it's easier to be friends after that.

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39 by full point_Archive
STF wrote: But this other girl is, in my mind, a once-in-a-lifetime-type girl. So of course I want to try and have her.


HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA!

I really hope you're under the age of 24. Cause if you really believe that statement above, you're in line for a world of hurt.




A WORLD OF HURT.
:spade: :spade:

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40 by Mayfair_Archive
STF wrote:
grangle wrote:if you want to fuck someone else, end your old relationship first.


I could have quoted other things, but that'll do. And BTW I didn't intend to talk about my problem, just to start a discussion. How sanctimonious some of you are.

There are very good reasons for not ending my present relationship. We own a car, an HDTV, and two cats and a dog together, and are renting to own our current residence (--a good deal, actually). If I leave my girlfriend--which I will probably do eventually, regardless of what happens with my co-worker--I will let her have all of this stuff. (Except the cat that I found and paid for his vet bills and love dearly.) I will have nothing. Of course I would gladly give this stuff up if I were sure my co-worker and I could have some sort of relationship. But for now I will wait and see.

Banal as it sounds, we think we're in love. I have no problem with fucking a few times to see if the addition of physical affection confirms or refutes this feeling. Afterwards we can decide what to do next. I liked my girlfriend just fine before this, and figured we'd get married. I've never cheated before, nor have I ever been an accomplice in cheating. This, in my mind anyway, is a unique situation (for me). This other girl is 100 times smarter, prettier, and cooler than my girlfriend. And I'd be crazy about her under any circumstances. These just happen to be the worst possible.

And bullshit about marriage. If you're 22 and you get married because it seems like a sweet thing to do then two years later you realize you've made a mistake, so be it. It's not the end of the world if a marriage ends. We just want to be more sure about us before we go and fuck everybody's lives up.


I agree than marriages don't always work out but, jeez, you get what you give. If you actually do get married because it seemed like a sweet thing to do and now you are willing to go behind the back and lie to someone you have a relationship with, I am not sure if you are really deserving of the good parts. Marriage is work.... work that you WANT to do.... work that you would give up things like HDTV and cars and nice apartments to do.... not just when it is convenient or suits your loins

My original post was just my opinion on marriage trying not to add judgement of your situation but man! Your second post makes you out to be a selfish lying dick. When you said "I will have nothing" it made me think that with your attitude toward marriage, your current partner, and to your co-worker and her husband you already do have nothing. Sorry to be so fucking harsh and judgemental but you did ask for opinions and I am being very honest with you.
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