Ty Webb wrote:Are you saying you're tired of anal sex talk? What are you, gay?

HELL NO I AIN'T GAY. I LOVE ANAL.

sometimes i will go days without hitting the ol' lady. it's teh little things.

thewelfareline wrote:sometimes i will go days without hitting the ol' lady. it's teh little things.

Use the open hand once in a while.

Admittedly, I didn't read the thread. But, I think most women would define romance as small gestures that demonstrate that you pay attention and think about her in a loving way.

Depending on the lady in question, this gesture could be something traditional like bringing her some of her favorite flowers or something more personal like bringing her that Philly Cheese Steak sandwich she loves so much after a long day. It could even be as simple as finding a really cool rock that you think she'd like.

my last long term relationship started out long distance and after he'd turned up alone at a few shows i played, instead of freaking i realised how cute he was so i spoke to him, gave him my address and asked him to write me a really long letter. a week later, a big package arrived containing a 9 page (a4 mind) letter, a mix tape and a bunch of useless kinder style shit. it was so cute and amazing that i fell in love . instantly. no joke.

suggest a road trip somewhere new, you get the chance to talk lots. if you can't talk for a few hours and amuse yourselves in a car in traffic for a few hours, then, i don't know what. but i found that pretty darn romantic.

we drove back and i insisted he slept in my spare room since we were suffering with sunstroke and he had at least another 4 hours to go. in the morning, he drove to safeway bought strawberries and eggs and made me breakfast.

obviously, this is great in new relationships but little touches like the breakfast, for no good reason are always awesome. as are decorating a room full of fairy lights. for no good reason. taking that person to a gallery/show/bookshop/arcade that they love, is romantic. it's showing how much you care about the fact that they care about something and you respect that because they wouldn't be who they are unless they had that interest.

i remember talking about taking up photography seriously and doing a course and i was totally blown away by the fact he bought me an slr camera for christmas. i mean, i'd never made any hints, he'd just paid attention and i guess he wanted to help me get there.(i did the course and still use the camera)

so, to recap:

subtle surprises
cooking
play video games together but NEVER monopoly
go and check out pet stores for the rabbits. it's fun. romance should be fun stuff not stiff collar, nervous expectation stuff.

go forth and take her to the penny arcade and get high on soda the drive home blasting a record you both love while eating pizza slices. awwwwww.

fantasmatical thorr wrote:play video games together but NEVER monopoly

What about Scrabble?

fantasmatical thorr wrote:my last long term relationship started out long distance and after he'd turned up alone at a few shows i played, instead of freaking i realised how cute he was so i spoke to him, gave him my address and asked him to write me a really long letter. a week later, a big package arrived containing a 9 page (a4 mind) letter, a mix tape and a bunch of useless kinder style shit. it was so cute and amazing that i fell in love . instantly. no joke.

suggest a road trip somewhere new, you get the chance to talk lots. if you can't talk for a few hours and amuse yourselves in a car in traffic for a few hours, then, i don't know what. but i found that pretty darn romantic.

we drove back and i insisted he slept in my spare room since we were suffering with sunstroke and he had at least another 4 hours to go. in the morning, he drove to safeway bought strawberries and eggs and made me breakfast.

obviously, this is great in new relationships but little touches like the breakfast, for no good reason are always awesome. as are decorating a room full of fairy lights. for no good reason. taking that person to a gallery/show/bookshop/arcade that they love, is romantic. it's showing how much you care about the fact that they care about something and you respect that because they wouldn't be who they are unless they had that interest.

i remember talking about taking up photography seriously and doing a course and i was totally blown away by the fact he bought me an slr camera for christmas. i mean, i'd never made any hints, he'd just paid attention and i guess he wanted to help me get there.(i did the course and still use the camera)

so, to recap:

subtle surprises
cooking
play video games together but NEVER monopoly
go and check out pet stores for the rabbits. it's fun. romance should be fun stuff not stiff collar, nervous expectation stuff.

go forth and take her to the penny arcade and get high on soda the drive home blasting a record you both love while eating pizza slices. awwwwww.

Wow, that was so sweet. Thanks!

dimpfelmoser wrote:

fantasmatical thorr wrote:play video games together but NEVER monopoly

What about Scrabble?

if you really love them? no. unless you're both drunk otherwise, you're setting yourself up for competetivness (?!) like in monopoly. which can sometimes lead to petty arguments. maybe.

and we all know that petty arguments are stored in a secret ammo hold for future blow ups.