ChudFusk wrote: Sat Feb 07, 2026 2:29 pm I turned 50 yesterday. If I hadn't planned my own party then probably nothing would have happened. I had a good time but shit like this makes me feel like why bother celebrating my own life if nobody else is willing to put any effort into it. My last close family member, my mom's cousin, died in December so I have nobody to call me on my birthday any more. My landline rang yesterday but it was just a spam call and I broke down because until December that would have been her calling to sing "Happy Birthday" to me. I have my girlfriend and her family but they are not warm people and none of them really know or understand me. I'm someone who believes in celebrating birthdays and would do anything to help a friend or loved one feel good on their special day, and I feel like I'm the only person who does. Maybe if I had kids or a community then it would be a normal part of life, but I don't and my friends are too spread out and disconnected from each other to do anything on their own, so at the end of it all it just feels like I'm patting myself on the back. I just want someone else to care.

ChudFusk wrote: Sat Feb 07, 2026 2:29 pm I turned 50 yesterday. If I hadn't planned my own party then probably nothing would have happened. I had a good time but shit like this makes me feel like why bother celebrating my own life if nobody else is willing to put any effort into it. My last close family member, my mom's cousin, died in December so I have nobody to call me on my birthday any more. My landline rang yesterday but it was just a spam call and I broke down because until December that would have been her calling to sing "Happy Birthday" to me. I have my girlfriend and her family but they are not warm people and none of them really know or understand me. I'm someone who believes in celebrating birthdays and would do anything to help a friend or loved one feel good on their special day, and I feel like I'm the only person who does. Maybe if I had kids or a community then it would be a normal part of life, but I don't and my friends are too spread out and disconnected from each other to do anything on their own, so at the end of it all it just feels like I'm patting myself on the back. I just want someone else to care.

Lu Zwei wrote: Sat Feb 07, 2026 3:14 pmYou just described my birthday a week ago. Welcome to the club.

ChudFusk wrote: Sat Feb 07, 2026 3:29 pm

Lu Zwei wrote: Sat Feb 07, 2026 3:14 pmYou just described my birthday a week ago. Welcome to the club.

Ah, well "Hin€ky pÅd¿nk¿y" or however they say "happy birthday" in Croatian!

ChudFusk wrote: Sat Feb 07, 2026 2:29 pm I turned 50 yesterday. If I hadn't planned my own party then probably nothing would have happened. I had a good time but shit like this makes me feel like why bother celebrating my own life if nobody else is willing to put any effort into it.