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losthighway wrote: Sun Jan 23, 2022 9:56 am My daughter read all of Go Dog Go for me this morning. It was awesome. She's 14.





(Just kidding, 5).

My daughter just read Go Dog Go for the first time last week!

My son, 25, developed a meth habit during COVID. Apparently he'd used before but it became regular since the pandemic. He's fucked. He's entering his 3rd rehab in a year tomorrow. It's a Jewish one, sort of an urban kibbutz here in LA. If this doesn't work I'm out.

That’s horrible to hear, Enframed. I hope this stay works.

We had our first antenatal class on Saturday, and enjoyed it. Our guide was deft in breaking couples out occasionally into mini-groups on Zoom, we had some kind of mingling. Our flat is shrinking as baby stuff accumulates.

enframed wrote: Sun Jan 23, 2022 10:01 pm My son, 25, developed a meth habit during COVID. Apparently he'd used before but it became regular since the pandemic. He's fucked. He's entering his 3rd rehab in a year tomorrow. It's a Jewish one, sort of an urban kibbutz here in LA. If this doesn't work I'm out.

That's rough mate. I hope it can find a decent end for you all.

enframed wrote: Sun Jan 23, 2022 10:01 pm My son, 25, developed a meth habit during COVID. Apparently he'd used before but it became regular since the pandemic. He's fucked. He's entering his 3rd rehab in a year tomorrow. It's a Jewish one, sort of an urban kibbutz here in LA. If this doesn't work I'm out.

so sorry to hear this. i know you don't want to give up on your son.

enframed wrote: Sun Jan 23, 2022 10:01 pm My son, 25, developed a meth habit during COVID. Apparently he'd used before but it became regular since the pandemic. He's fucked. He's entering his 3rd rehab in a year tomorrow. It's a Jewish one, sort of an urban kibbutz here in LA. If this doesn't work I'm out.

Yikes.. I hope this one works. Best to you and your son.

Thanks for the well wishes, all. His mother is driving him down from Santa Barbara, should arrive in about 30 minutes. Gonna pick up some shit I'm storing in the garage and off to rehab, again.

Of course I don't want to give up on him, but I also have reached my wits' end about it. In and out of rehab, taking off for weeks (sometimes leaving the facility, other times leaving the sober living apartment) on benders, living on the streets of Hollywood and then calling when he needs something, or checking himself into an ER to get a break from it.

I'm close to saying "fuck 'im." He says he's more addicted to sex (he seeks out transgender women for sex) but that is not what made him wreck his car falling asleep at the wheel or burn a hole in the wall of his apartment, again falling asleep while coming down or whatever. Also it seems that whoever he meets up with also has meth, so...who knows what the truth is yet. I hope he figures it out.

enframed wrote: Mon Jan 24, 2022 9:43 am I'm close to saying "fuck 'im." He says he's more addicted to sex (he seeks out transgender women for sex) but that is not what made him wreck his car falling asleep at the wheel or burn a hole in the wall of his apartment, again falling asleep while coming down or whatever. Also it seems that whoever he meets up with also has meth, so...who knows what the truth is yet. I hope he figures it out.

That's what's so hard about sobriety, you need friends around, but so many are the wrong ones to be around. Maybe that's why all of the sober guys I know are way into either rock climbing or jiu jitsu- it was a way to totally repopulate their social lives. Meth is a beast. I imagine it's taken a toll on everyone around you.

I know (or knew; not everybody is still alive) a few people with meth problems and none of them ever volunteered for rehab. That has to be a positive at least. Good luck.

Since this forum came back, and since I re-registered--under a new username, because why make anything easy for anyone--I became a parent twice over: once through marriage, and we welcomed a baby girl back in October of 2020.

In the meantime I have come to the unfortunate conclusion that, in my opinion, I am not a very good parent. It's incredibly hard to be a parent to my son--my wife and her ex-husband have a parenting plan that is a 50/50 split in residential time with him--when the other household appears to embrace an utterly undisciplined "parenting style" that allows for nearly limitless screen time, be it TV/movies or video games. Maybe I'm showing my age, but it depresses the hell out of me that this kid just wants to be in front of a screen all day long, and we have to force him to read books or play outside. Being a parent to my daughter is a little bit easier, but that's because I just have to limit her death-defying stunts, garbage eating, and potential COVID-19 exposure.

My wife would like to have another child more than a couple of years down the road, but I honestly don't know if we could afford it financially, or whether I can handle it mentally/emotionally.