I don't want to get too personal or get into a touchy issue, so it's fine if you don't want to respond to this, but would you mind sharing the evidence that your brother's epilepsy was caused by vaccines? I don't mean to imply that it wasn't, I have no idea. But one thing I've seen a lot of is assuming, without good evidence, that vaccines cause serious problems. I'm not saying they never do, only that we shouldn't jump to conclusions (not saying you are, but others certainly have).
If there is evidence that vaccines can cause epilepsy, of course that should be clearly stated to everyone getting vaccines, or perhaps the vaccine should be taken off the market.
Why would the school care? Here's a NYT article excerpt that might give an indication. Let me ask you, why do you think schools are adamant about vaccines?
But scientists and public health officials say they are alarmed by the surge of attention to an idea without scientific merit. The anti-thimerosal campaign, they say, is causing some parents to stay away from vaccines, placing their children at risk for illnesses like measles and polio.
"It's really terrifying, the scientific illiteracy that supports these suspicions," said Dr. Marie McCormick, chairwoman of an Institute of Medicine panel that examined the controversy in February 2004.
Experts say they are also concerned about a raft of unproven, costly and potentially harmful treatments - including strict diets, supplements and a detoxifying technique called chelation - that are being sold for tens of thousands of dollars to desperate parents of autistic children as a cure for "mercury poisoning."
I'm no expert on vaccinations or mercury or autism. I have lots of bad things to say about big drug companies and other large corporations. I'm not saying vaccines are perfect and should be used carelessly. What I'm saying is that these are really important issues that should be looked at rationally, critically, and scientifically, so we can all make our own careful decisions. I sometimes see a knee-jerk reaction against vaccines and other elements of Western medicine by people who are sometimes quick to embrace "alternative" medicine with little or no skepticism.
Here's an analogy: It's common to hear people say they are afraid of flying in planes, and some even avoid planes because of this fear. Now IIRC, it's far more likely that one will die in a car crash, but I don't recall ever hearing anyone say that they're afraid of traveling in cars. I think this kind of "gut feeling" comes into play with vaccines; they seem scary and dangerous (like planes can), but as far as risk/benefit goes, I'm pretty sure vaccines are quite safe.
I'm happy to look at any evidence to the contrary; I could be wrong about vaccines. I just hope everyone would look at these issues objectively and critically instead of jumping to conclusions.