Ace wrote:I think it's really funny how when men are in love, or are in a very deep, caring, long-term relationship, they'll talk about how much they admire their partner's clear-headedness and intelligence.

And then there's the "all women are crazy" complaint. Jesus, make up your minds, foo's!

i love my wife, she's great.

she's nuttier than a sack of of almonds.

The Code is Almighty wrote:

DrAwkward wrote:

The Code is Almighty wrote:This is my problem. I want nothing to do with sane girls.

Just sayin'.

While you sound like just about everyone I know, I swear that this is not case.

Crazy girls seem to be the only ones that I can fool into thinking that I'm interesting.

For the record, being into crazy girls isn't a bad thing. Like i said before, you just have to find the kind of crazy that works best with yours. After all, totally sane people are kind of boring.

The velocity with which this thread reached three pages is exactly why I'm not going to read it.

My Saturday (all phone calls):

She: hey, what's going on
Me: not much just hanging out until the show I'm going to tonight.
((About 20 minutes of small talk and the conversation ends))

HOURS LATER
Me: Hey, I just noticed I missed your call while I was in the shower. What's up?
She: I didn't have any reason to call you.
Me: Oh...ok.
SILENCE
She: A tree in front of my apartment was hit by lightning.
Me: A tree in front of your apartment was hit by lightning? Really?
She: Why are you saying it like that?
Me: Umm..like what?
She: Why are you repeating what I just said like that?
Me: Because I have bad hearing and am always repeating things. You know that.
She: Why are you being mean to me?
((Five or so minutes of her repeatedly asking why I'm being mean and me saying I'm not))
She: I guess I'll let you go.
Me: Ok, talk to you later.

((Ten minutes pass))
Me: Hello?
She: Why did you hang up on me?
Me: I didn't.
She: You said goodbye then hung up before I said goodbye.
Me: Umm...I thought we were done.
((Ten minutes of her asking why I'm mad at her and me saying I'm not))
She: Well, I guess you're mad at me so I'll let you go.
Me: Ok, talk to you later.

11:10pm
((I'm at the Hayden show and she calls. I think something must be wrong since she's calling this late, know I'm at a show and bolt out of the room to take the call))

Me: Hello!
Her kid: BABY GIBBERISH
Me: ...hi...what's are you doing?
Her kid: BABY GIBBERISH
((She picks up, laughing))
She: Are you at your show?
Me: I am
She: Oh, then why are you answering your phone?
Me: umm...because you called?
She: Oh don't worry about it, I was just going to leave you a message. Me and ((the kid)) have been talking about you all night.
Me: Ok, talk to you later.

That's crazy.

YES

andyk

otisroom wrote:This sound familiar?

Diagnostic Criteria

A pervasive pattern of instability of interpersonal relationships, self-image, and affects, and marked impulsivity beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following:

1. frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment. Note: Do not include suicidal or self-mutilating behavior covered in Criterion 5.
2. a pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation
3. identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self-image or sense of self
4. impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating). Note: Do not include suicidal or self-mutilating behavior covered in Criterion 5.
5. recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, or threats, or self-mutilating behavior
6. affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood (e.g., intense episodic dysphoria, irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days)
7. chronic feelings of emptiness
8. inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights)
9. transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms

Le me get this right. Are you trying to make the case that all females are suffering from borderline personality disorder? If it were true that half the world's population is indeed suffering from BPD, then it doesn't seem quite right that the American Psychiatric Association has classified it as a 'disorder' now does it?

Givemeenoughrope,I say that if you're really having this much trouble with half the world's population, then I suggest you try and identify which attitudes or biases in your own mind might be the at the root of this problem.

Are you going through a bad breakup or something? If so, I sympathize with your pain and struggle, but please do try to keep some things in perspective here. All females the world over are not at fault for your past failed relationships. Maybe you need to concentrate on yourself a bit more. Take some time, get to work on a few pet projects or something. Relying too much on other people for your own happiness is a certain way to ensure your own misery.

the$inmusicisallmine wrote:

Ace wrote:I think it's really funny how when men are in love, or are in a very deep, caring, long-term relationship, they'll talk about how much they admire their partner's clear-headedness and intelligence.

And then there's the "all women are crazy" complaint. Jesus, make up your minds, foo's!

i love my wife, she's great.

she's nuttier than a sack of of almonds.

Hey, I guess this goes to show we shouldn't generalize !

That's awesome that you have tolerance for crazy women. I myself think that both sexes are pretty insane. For every crazy girl out there you have to remember that there are males - PLENTY of them - running around who look like this:

Now, I don't know how crazy your girlfriend is, but I'll be willing to put down money she isn't as nuts as that guy right there.

Ace wrote:

After numerous break-ups, a divorce and a current relationship on hiatus with an element of uncertainty right now, I sometimes think being alone is probably preferable. The hard lesson I have learned is you can't rely on anyone but yourself.

If a woman I know is acting "crazy" toward me, I generally assume I'm somehow at fault.