Gramsci wrote: Wed Mar 12, 2025 2:32 pm Knowing that women in the past you would have flirted with just see you as some old dude sucks. But thank gods I’m self aware enough to know that.

Some of those women have daddy issues...

enframed wrote: Fri Mar 14, 2025 9:33 am

Gramsci wrote: Wed Mar 12, 2025 2:32 pm Knowing that women in the past you would have flirted with just see you as some old dude sucks. But thank gods I’m self aware enough to know that.

Some of those women have daddy issues...

I’d firstly like to say I’m very happily married. But I’ve yet to notice a woman in their 30s interested in a dude in their late 40s. Maybe it’s just me

enframed wrote: Fri Mar 14, 2025 9:30 am

jimmy spako wrote: Wed Mar 12, 2025 10:18 am Related:

Getting mad at your food as it approaches your mouth because you can't see it properly.
This has been a new thing for me with my failing eyesight.
There could be fucking ants on there for all I know! In any case, it certainly strangely stresses me out and takes some of the pleasure out of eating.

Heh, when I eat now and I am not wearing my readers I always think of the scene in Lost Boys when the rice is seen as maggots.

Seriously, being able to see food makes eating so much more pleasurable.

Yeah, definitely. And there's something primal and upsetting about not being able to see it as you are about to take a bite.
Also, it is an aesthetic thing. I like nice-looking food too and appreciate the anticipation on that level, and now that has been thrown off.
Guess I am going to have to start carrying around my readers.

Gramsci wrote: Fri Mar 14, 2025 9:43 am

enframed wrote: Fri Mar 14, 2025 9:33 am

Gramsci wrote: Wed Mar 12, 2025 2:32 pm Knowing that women in the past you would have flirted with just see you as some old dude sucks. But thank gods I’m self aware enough to know that.

Some of those women have daddy issues...

I’d firstly like to say I’m very happily married. But I’ve yet to notice a woman in their 30s interested in a dude in their late 40s. Maybe it’s just me

Maybe not at work, and they'd be smart to avoid that situation, but out in the world? You're just not looking/noticing. Or it's just you.

enframed wrote: Fri Mar 14, 2025 9:49 am

Gramsci wrote: Fri Mar 14, 2025 9:43 am

enframed wrote: Fri Mar 14, 2025 9:33 am

Some of those women have daddy issues...

I’d firstly like to say I’m very happily married. But I’ve yet to notice a woman in their 30s interested in a dude in their late 40s. Maybe it’s just me

Maybe not at work, and they'd be smart to avoid that situation, but out in the world? You're just not looking/noticing. Or it's just you.

I’m definitely not looking.

Or it’s just me

Gramsci wrote: Wed Mar 12, 2025 2:32 pm Knowing that women in the past you would have flirted with just see you as some old dude sucks. But thank gods I’m self aware enough to know that. There’s nothing worse than the “Hello Fellow Kids” folks.

Strangely, this is one of the things I don’t mind about aging. My wife and I have been taking dancing classes for about nine months and regularly go social dancing. We’ve commented on how we’ll sometimes dance with people half our age (we’re in our fifties) and that it’s a cool, no-pressure situation.

There’s one woman in her 20s in particular who just seems like a kid to me. The level of attraction is zero on my part. But if I was in my 20s, I would’ve been too intimidated to have ever even talked to her.

the defensive anxiety that used to hold me hostage at every turn - "don't try that yet! it's not safe! what if you fuck up? people will see! everyone will judge you!" - is too tired and worn out to put up much of a case anymore, so it's getting easier and easier to say "i'm only talking about sharing an idea / recording some music / trying to write something people might want to read, if it isn't very good so fucking what? i'll figure it out on the way."

for a couple decades i've routinely talked myself out of trying things i really wanted to do from an absolutely paralysing need to control what other people think of me. i am full of joy to see that part of me go away.

^ That's rad. Happy for you.

i am looking for a way to instill that in my kids. they're so hyper vigilant about big brother watching them, social credit, and who's judging them. i just want to pull them up to my generation and say, "see, it's ok! take a chance."

I said it before in so many words a few pages back, but I’m really enjoying the toned down libido. It’s great to not be horny all the time.