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That sucks. Go to counseling. Alone for sure, couples if she will do it.

If she didn't say she's leaving or you have to leave, you got a shot. Good luck.

I’ve been on anti-depressants for about 3 years now. I think it has been a net positive. It has helped me be comfortable in my own skin during a time when the discomfort was becoming unmanageable.

I currently feel a little too comfortable, and, dare I say, complacent. It bothers my conscience, but causes no anxiety. I’m just sort of pacing around myself, wondering where I go from here. I tell myself that it’s ok to pace. I just don’t want to spend the rest of my life pacing.

Has anyone else been in this position? Should I lay off of the meds, or look into different meds? Are these notions the result of being hard-wired for discomfort? These are things I’ll bring up at my next session. Just wondering if anyone else has dabbled in this realm.

I began taking Paxil in the summer of 2018 - also a net positive for me, but it would occasionally kind of become less effective. I have talked about this a few pages back I'm pretty sure, but to your point, I've been coming off my highest dose slowly this year. From 40 to 20 to now 10mg per day.

I was not experiencing what you described - for me I wanted to get off because I wondered if I still needed them since I'd quit drinking, and I wanted to get back to normal energy levels. I wanted to shed the side effects, specifically weight gain and libido decrease. (Libido is a funny word.)

Things I've noticed - I prioritize creative and productive things a little more now that I did a year ago, Overall energy is improved, but it's not a ton. I enjoy things a little more, but there are some lower depths to some of the lows. They are manageable, and the tougher parts have been within a week or two of dropping my dose.

I'm going to try to get off completely at the next available step in a few months.

Anyway, yeah, it's not easy, but it's not hard either if you know what to expect (brain zaps, fog, irritability) and can be prepared to manage those things.

Good luck.

Dave N. wrote: Sat Oct 01, 2022 9:17 pm I’ve been on anti-depressants for about 3 years now. I think it has been a net positive. It has helped me be comfortable in my own skin during a time when the discomfort was becoming unmanageable.

I currently feel a little too comfortable, and, dare I say, complacent. It bothers my conscience, but causes no anxiety. I’m just sort of pacing around myself, wondering where I go from here. I tell myself that it’s ok to pace. I just don’t want to spend the rest of my life pacing.

Has anyone else been in this position? Should I lay off of the meds, or look into different meds? Are these notions the result of being hard-wired for discomfort? These are things I’ll bring up at my next session. Just wondering if anyone else has dabbled in this realm.

Hiya Dave,

Friends have reported to me the very same thing. The difficult task has been finding a medication type/dose that mitigates the original symptoms whilst minimising the “numbness”. Just to make it harder, the target moves.

I have no first hand experience myself, but wanted very much to tell you that others have walked this. When you bring this up at your session, I am sure that it will be familiar ground for your doctor/therapist.

Thinking of you from down here!

I'm about a month and a half into my psych med journey. Doctor upped the dosage after a few weeks on the lowest dose. I don't think I fully have the numbness others describe, but there's definitely a blunted response to some things. It's good in some ways as I've been able to sort of redirect from negative blows and continue to push forward and be productive, but I can't tell if I'm just not over-reacting or if I'm not able to fully process things. Still early in my journey so I'm trying to allow some grace as maybe I'm still adjusting, but trying to be conscious of every little thing.

I have my first appointment with a new therapist tonight, whom I can hopefully see with more regularity than my last (why is health insurance the biggest barrier to health care?) I really hate having to shop around for a therapist, I've spoken to a few and I knew some were clearly a bad fit, but I'm not sure how to tell if someone's a good fit. Here's hoping this one's a good choice.

Hang in there everyone. Shit's fucked, but you're not.

Increasingly likely homeless spell part II is hitting me like a truck.

A_Man_Who_Tries wrote: Thu Oct 06, 2022 10:35 am Increasingly likely homeless spell part II is hitting me like a truck.

Crap. Horrific. And unfair.

A_Man_Who_Tries wrote: Thu Oct 06, 2022 10:35 am Increasingly likely homeless spell part II is hitting me like a truck.

That sucks.

I hope everything works out in your favor.

A_Man_Who_Tries wrote: Thu Oct 06, 2022 10:35 am Increasingly likely homeless spell part II is hitting me like a truck.

Is there anything we can do to help?

eephus wrote: Thu Sep 01, 2022 10:55 pm
Eventually went to talk therapy after my brain could process shit again, and that worked wonders, particularly EMDR. I'll always be grateful for finding a great shrink.

I'm having a really hard time finding one that covers what I'm looking for (cancer/grief support), that is in my network, that is accepting patients How did you guys go about finding someone good?