I am writing this because it is 6 a.m. and I am still awake, and there is no one to talk to, and there is nothing left in my stomach to vomit.

I vomited, because it just occured to me that I have ended a decade-long relationship with my wife.

We split up two days ago and I am only now vomiting. I believe I've been in shock for two days.

I am exhausted. I can't sleep.

Ten years. Jesus Christ. What the hell am I gonna do?

CRAP...ASS!!!

Hope that got a laugh outta ya.

Hang in there, guy.

I will also say "Hang in there," because I can't say anything but I do want you to hang in there.

This situation, she is truly crap ass. I am hanging. In there. What else can I do? This is embarassing, this posting of personal issues. Thanks Scott. Thanks Linus.

You're probably doing this already, but see some close friends. Stay with them if possible. It's helped me out recently. I don't know you, but you have my sincerest sympathies - I'll third the hang on in there.

A word of advice to anybody who may find themselves in a similar situation:

Avoid music of all kinds. Every song ever written has been composed for the sole purpose of reminding you of your pain.

You musicians: shame on you all.

Well, it's going to be weird for you for the next few weeks thats for sure. There's no avoiding that. Give your self some time off, spend money on yourself, get some good beers in and play all your old Shellac records at top volume (not The Crow, though) Is there anything positive about what has happened? That you are free of or free to do? If so you need to remind yourself of those things, repeatedly! If you now have freedom to go out and do what you like, use that freedom (wisely, don't go get AIDS from a crack whore) if you are free of nagging...enjoy the silence. This is what you need to concentrate on for now. If you find yourself going over the things you miss in your wife, work on a plan to find them in someone else...if that sounds unrealistic, remind yourself its what everyone else has done! Unless they're losers of course... In short, you need a goal, a hope, a plan, go out to new places, meet long lost friends and old friends for company. Don't think about the 10 years as wasted time, although in a very real sense it is, I'm sure something good resulted from it: salvage those things. Work out why it ended (ask her / others if you don't know) and avoid those qualities in future women, try to erase those qualities if they are yours. Adapt or die out.

Always happy to help a total stranger...

OOps, while I was writing, you mentioned "stay away from music", but you should be safe still with Shellac, it's all about nutcases, cars and Canada

I guess you have to tough it out fella.

Just remember you’ll feel terrible for a long time but day by day it will get better. In fact one day you’ll feel fine.

In the meantime, do as much as you can to take your mind off the whole thing, join the gym and go a lot –this has the added bonus of being in shape when you are ready to started dating again-, go to the movies a lot to more escapist the better. Basically do as much as you can to divert your attention until your subconscious has recovered.

Crash at a mates for a bit, it means fuck all to them, they won't see it as a big deal but it'll sort you out properly. There's nothing better than having a mate say "do you want a cup of tea?" or "I got this DVD from the rental place!".
If you go out and get hammered do it somewhere away from home then you can get trashed, kip on a sofa and you don't have to consider your own home and what happened there.
I agree about listening to music. Sounds lame but anything with a vaguely sentimental air will kill me even now, 2 years on from a bad breakup. Play me the Straight Story soundtrack and I'm down like a sniper victim.

But yeah, hang in there, it's not bad to post stuff on a forum, you're not competing in a "who's most miserable?" competition - you're venting spleen. Fair play to you sir.

A wound heals in time the less you scratch and pick. You'll invariably hit a point where the positive outweighs the negative. It won't be for a while yet though.

It's the balance of life, Fmajcinek.