I think sociability leads to superficiality and perhaps alienation.
It's important for us to take time to focus on what is important, what we want to do for ourselves instead of wasting time in a friendly conversation.
I like to stay alone,thinking,reading.
However,we are social animals.We have to be in order to survive...

I agree. I'm not much of a socializer. I find most casual, chatty conversations to be a waste of time. Don't get me wrong; I'm polite and not antisocial. But, generally speaking, I'd rather be alone with my own thoughts than with other people.

I'm going to spend the time I was going to use formulating a response idly masturbating.

242sumner wrote:I think sociability leads to superficiality and perhaps alienation.

Quite possibly the most ridiculous thing I've read on this forum yet.

Socialibility DEFINES us. It creates our connection to the world via a connection to one another and, ideally and by extension, to all living things. Without sociability, there is zero potential for the human to realize that he is part of a biosphere and that all things are connected.

Insecurity and anxiety lead to superficiality and alienation, not the desire to connect with your fellow higher primates. That's just silly.

i think people are using different definitions here.

i agree with ty, 100%.

242sumner wrote:I think sociability leads to superficiality and perhaps alienation.
It's important for us to take time to focus on what is important, what we want to do for ourselves instead of wasting time in a friendly conversation.
I like to stay alone,thinking,reading.
However,we are social animals.We have to be in order to survive...

Sociability builts you, gives you your identify because all you know about yourself was given you by your relationships.you are just total of other's image of you (said some post modern philosophers , I agree:) )

Ty Webb wrote:Quite possibly the most ridiculous thing I've read on this forum yet.

Insecurity and anxiety lead to superficiality and alienation, not the desire to connect with your fellow higher primates.

So, It s an achievement.I will take this as a compliment.
I think you are partially right, though.
The desire to "connect" is fundamental to human life.I have never said otherwise.
A high disire to connect with other people shows insecurity and anxiety.
My point is: we dont need a high level of sociability and we usually have too much of this.

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I think not necessarily.
If your an insecure person you can look to others to give or confirm your identity but i don't think that's a good basis for a relationship between friends.
You get allot more out of relations when both partys understand and respect eachother without really feeding from eachother apart from just being good to have around.

I've recently moved to the city without knowing to many people here and man, many of the people i've only met in the last two months i call good friends. Ofcourse you have to be abit lucky there aswell.
I couldn't relate to allot of the people in my hometown either.
I'm very open to people in general wich makes that i find people i can genuinely relate to very easily, if they're around ofcourse.

Correct me if i'm wrong but you seem to find genuine good contacts between people in some way superficial if not suspicious.
It's good to love people that love people man.

City's in Belgium are probably nothing compared to any major city in Brazil, maybe it's just harder to come across genuinely empathethic people in a big city like that i don't know.

I thought i should reply because things happening to me regarding connecting with people have been a real buzz.
I'm sorry if i can't explain myself properly in English.

Regards,
Peter

One of the factors at play here is introversion/extroversion, which is just a classification about how you feel most comfortable--in small (or very small) groups, or in large groups? How do you recharge? Alone time with a book? Or working a room?

Introversion can occur along with shyness or social anxiety, but they're different things--you can have a perfectly adjusted introvert with no social anxiety--who can schmooze, work a room, etc.--but this person would likely still need to be alone or with one or two people for a while to feel normal.

I'd say there's nothing wrong with sociability, and getting comfortable with it can do you a lot of good, but also recognize that if it's not how you want to spend all your time, that's fine too. If you feel active anxiety about interacting with people, though, that's a separate problem which can be dealt with.