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There's this woman who lives about a block from me in a blind home. (Sorry, what is the PC term for that?) She's awfully attractive and at least dresses like she's into punk rock. Now that I'm completely single, I figure, "Why the hell not?"
I see her occasionally on my way to and fro the liquor store. I have a hard enough time trying to break the ice with women that can see my ugly mug; how the hell does one strike up a conversation in this situation while successfully avoiding foot-in-mouth syndrome? Believe me, I've already thought, "Maybe I can help her cross the street," until I realized she's probably self-sufficient enough already.

Well, the oven's done pre-heating. DiGiorno time!

Charlie D wrote:There's this woman who lives about a block from me in a blind home. (Sorry, what is the PC term for that?) She's awfully attractive and at least dresses like she's into punk rock. Now that I'm completely single, I figure, "Why the hell not?"
I see her occasionally on my way to and fro the liquor store. I have a hard enough time trying to break the ice with women that can see my ugly mug; how the hell does one strike up a conversation in this situation while successfully avoiding foot-in-mouth syndrome? Believe me, I've already thought, "Maybe I can help her cross the street," until I realized she's probably self-sufficient enough already.

Well, the oven's done pre-heating. DiGiorno time!

I had a friend in college who was blind, and she said the most annoying thing to her is when people tried to approach her in a way where they were being "overly sensitive" as she said. i.e. offering to help her cross the street, or warning her before she was about to hit something with her cane, and then using that as the excuse to talk to her, because then her blindness would be the method of introduction for the relationship, and she disliked that.

She said the direct approach was the best. If you see her, and you're walking nearby, say "Hello there. I've seen you before, do you live around here?" and start the conversation that way. You can even say "I've noticed the way you dress, and was wondering what kind of music you like?"

It's really not as stupid as it sounds.

The other thing my friend said, is that she often felt like she missed out on a lot of opportunities to meet people because people would be too intimidated to talk to her because she was blind.

Just say "Hello" introduce yourself. And if it works it works, if it doesn't it doesn't.

There will be a lot of things to learn about dating a blind person (I learned a lot just being friends with one) but if you're right for each other, and you're patient, and you listen to what she says (she'll teach you) then it will work out.

Good luck.

Paging Marsupialized.

iembalm wrote:Paging Marsupialized.

he's elsewhere.

i had an asshole joke to make but i forgot it.

such is the wavering quality of the fly.

sleepkid wrote:Pretty much what I was thinking.

So like any other time when she's wearing a Clash t-shirt: "Oh, hey, you like the Clash, huh?"
There was this blind fellow who rode my bus, I often wondered if I should help him out until I realized that he's probably been at it for years. Others have told me, "Well, you're just being nice, that's not a bad thing." I kept explaining that it wasn't about the "bad" thing it was about the "offensive" thing.
Thanks for the excellent advice, sleepkid. Salut.

Just start talking to her like any other chick.

Being blind isn't really all that funny.

sleepkid wrote:You can even say "I've noticed the way you dress, and was wondering what kind of music you like?"

It's really not as stupid as it sounds

Yeah, it's twice as stupid

I can't see what you did there.

Just be polite and straight with her.

"Excuse me, Miss. I was wondering if I might trouble you to go out for a drink with me?"

Coffee, beer whatever. She has no reason to say no, it's just a drink. Probably you could exchange numbers and meet whenever is convenient.

Charlie D: I see you like the Clash. Then again, I see all sorts of stuff all the time. Ah, fuck it.

tommydski wrote:Just be polite and straight with her.

"Excuse me, Miss. I was wondering if I might trouble you to go out for a drink with me?"

Coffee, beer whatever. She has no reason to say no, it's just a drink. Probably you could exchange numbers and meet whenever is convenient.

Yeah, but if I write my number down, how would she read it? Not being a smart ass, seriously, how would she read it?