Has this happened to anyone else or just me?

Jimpy_Mendrix wrote:Has this happened to anyone else or just me?

doude, it happens to everybody. all the time. it's totally normal. fight it as best you can and you'll sleep well at night knowing you've done all you can.

what're we talking about again?

Maybe he just found out he's a woman, and likes men? I got nothing.

Mybe sometimes. But Always with a touch of sarcasm and never alone. At least for me. The future can be a funny thing (in hindsight). Y'know?

If we're voting on "Doude Looks Like A Lady" then Crap.

Is this Jimpy's first readable post? Maybe this is a reference to the lack of ........................s or >>>>>>>>>>>>s or maybe he's crying.

I preffered their earlier stuff. et cetera.

Yeah, Jimpy, I know that young, frustrated single males like yourself want to believe that a woman (say, one you find attractive) would like a man (such as yourself), and yet, the evidence is sorely lacking. You see her perched on the barstool from across the smoky room. You check your reflection in the B-dw--s-r mirror by the pinball machine where you've been standing. You approach--not too fast! (you don't want to scare her off) but not too slow (what if someone else jumps in, or you lose the moment?). There's an art to this, surely. Let's say you make it over to her unimpeded. She turns, her face radiant in the neon bar signs, the cigarette smoke adding a glamorous beautiful-woman-on-Star-Trek blur. Oh, if only you don't screw this up...which reminds you that now you must deliver an opening line. It's not overly clever (you don't want to seem full of yourself), shouldn't be arrogant, and yet shouldn't be self-deprecating, either. And you don't want to be bland. Damn--you should have worked out a good line before you came over, and now you're out of options. You blurt something out.

She laughs and turns away again. You've been shut down. Surely, you think, women do not like men.

I'm here to tell you, though, that there are indeed women who do like men. The majority of them, in fact. Many of these women like several men. And many of them like men who are not that different from you. So what's the problem? Perhaps...well, it pains me to say this, but perhaps, friend, it's just you that they don't like. Maybe the problem's presentation (that was a pretty awkward introduction back there), or maybe grooming. What's that smell? Have you showered recently? Taking good care of your teeth? All right, I'll believe you.

I know, I know. This is painful to hear. But you're never going to improve your technique until you face your shortcomings and improve them. I'd say so far that the biggest one is communication. I'd work on being clearer, speaking in whole sentences, and not blurting out whatever's on your mind, but trying either to find something to say that's appropriate to the situation, or supplying some context so she knows what you're talking about. I'm sure you'll get there eventually.

Rotten Tanx wrote:I preffered their earlier stuff. et cetera.

Aaaah, post-irony.

Yeah, the Americans are catching on, I thought I'd better knock it up a notch. BAM!