I have been, and I have enjoyed. I'm not saying that all gay people are wonderful, tolerant people, but most gay bars I've been to (where not everyone's after a casual fuck) have been welcoming, friendly places.

But sort out the damn music my gay brothers. Sort out that damn music.

many many times. no big deal.

si-maro wrote:I'm gonna get straight to the point here: I'd be amazed, frankly, as to why any young man of our generation who lives in an urban community would not have been to a gay bar, just once at least, at some point in their social fraternizing. Unless they had no friends at all, and thus no homosexual friends.

I don't know if Lansing qualifies as an urban community, but all the gay bars around here (that I know of) are dance clubs. I have no interest in dance clubs. If other towns of similar size and demographics have similar gay bar establishments, I could understand how a lot of people wouldn't go.

Plus, a lot of people don't go to bars in general.

Of course, not always my scene as the music is inevitability terrible. Oh, and the smell of semen and amyl nitrate in the toilets…*

* Poor taste joke

Rimbaud III wrote:But sort out the damn music my gay brothers. Sort out that damn music.

This is why i don't go to gay clubs on a regular basis. The dance music is abysmal!

But when i have gone to La Cage in Milwaukee, i have enjoyed myself thoroughly. It's a fun place!

My band once played a show at the Stinger Club, a gay bar in Brooklyn. We had to finish the show by 11 because that was when karaoke started.

DrAwkward wrote:

Rimbaud III wrote:But sort out the damn music my gay brothers. Sort out that damn music.

This is why i don't go to gay clubs on a regular basis. The dance music is abysmal!

But when i have gone to La Cage in Milwaukee, i have enjoyed myself thoroughly. It's a fun place!

My band once played a show at the Stinger Club, a gay bar in Brooklyn. We had to finish the show by 11 because that was when karaoke started.

God awful, always. I have gay friends that are into good music that can't go to gay bars due to the terrible music.

You know the kind... OOOoommf OOOoommf OOOoommf OOOoommf Ommmfa OOOoommf OOOoommf OOOoommf

Tom wrote:

si-maro wrote:I'm gonna get straight to the point here: I'd be amazed, frankly, as to why any young man of our generation who lives in an urban community would not have been to a gay bar, just once at least, at some point in their social fraternizing. Unless they had no friends at all, and thus no homosexual friends.

I don't know if Lansing qualifies as an urban community,

It does. It qualifies as a small urban community.

but all the gay bars around here (that I know of) are dance clubs. I have no interest in dance clubs. If other towns of similar size and demographics have similar gay bar establishments, I could understand how a lot of people wouldn't go.

Until recently, it was also true that all the dance clubs around here (that I know of) are gay bars. I think the vast majority of young people (let's say 16-30) either like dance clubs or don't dislike them enough to avoid going when their friends want to go. I think you're in a small minority on this. And, hey! Even you got tricked!

Plus, a lot of people don't go to bars in general.

Yes, but for a "have you ever"-type question, I don't think that's significant.

I've been to a lesbian bar. The music was great.
In fact, I think I danced, just like Jonathan Richman.

In the early punk rock period, punk rock abided weirdos, and queers were weirdos, so pretty much all early punk rock experiences had a queer element to them. Straight bars didn't like the punk crowd, but gay bars liked flamboyance of any kind. There was a significant sharing of resources (if not record collections) between the gay scene and the punk scene between 1976 and 1984, say. I know most of the shows I went to in the early 1980s had either the brunt or the vestiges of the queer involvement apparent.

So, if you were into punk rock in the late 70s-early 80s, you spent at least a little time in gay bars. Gay or not-gay.

sunlore wrote:
I really got an idea about what a lot of girls must experience going to bars. It was good for that.

Yeah, I agree. But it can be fun/okay. My problem is I end up being a tease.