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Do you plan on having a family?
Posted: Mon Jan 07, 2008 3:08 pm
by Steve V_Archive
I'll probably pass on the whole family thing, but who knows. If I find a spectacular lady who wants to try and make spectacular kids with my less-than-usually-spectacular semen, maybe I'll go for it. I don't think about this very often.
Do you plan on having a family?
Posted: Mon Jan 07, 2008 3:15 pm
by Chromodynamic_Archive
unsaved wrote:Here's
83 reasons why it's worth it to not breed.
Reason number 3 was banal and reason number 4 was mind-numbingly cliche, that's where I stopped.
By the logic in number 4 people should also stop: eating, sleeping, shitting, and fucking because so many other people participate in such activities.
I am undecided about a family I need to get through school and find someone who can actually tolerate me before it even becomes a consideration.
Do you plan on having a family?
Posted: Mon Jan 07, 2008 3:20 pm
by Marsupialized_Archive
Man, the other day I sat down at the computer and I see the wife was looking at pages about adopting a kid
I hope her and her second husband enjoy that kid they adopt
Do you plan on having a family?
Posted: Mon Jan 07, 2008 3:34 pm
by mt_Archive
NerblyBear wrote:Also, a question for any members currently with families of their own: Was it worth it or not? How has life changed for you as a result?
Yes, absolutely worth it, but it is obviously a shitload of work (sometimes handling literally "loads of shit.")
It has made me work on my patience a ton. I am more organized. It has added to the number of people in the world I would take a bullet for.
Do you plan on having a family?
Posted: Mon Jan 07, 2008 3:36 pm
by joelb_Archive
unsaved wrote: However, other people have no problem asking if I have kids and then telling me (and my wife, who, as a woman gets it worse) that choosing not to have children is selfish, evil, un-American, etc.
Why don't you stop hanging around, working with and/or talking with people who are evidently treating you and your wife with such disdain? Sounds like a waste of time.
We don't have kids and have never committed publicly to trying. I've never heard anyone say anything like this to me.
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Posted: Mon Jan 07, 2008 3:36 pm
by trompuss_Archive
Marsupialized wrote:Man, the other day I sat down at the computer and I see the wife was looking at pages about adopting a kid
I hope her and her second husband enjoy that kid they adopt
Maybe he will be able to make her pregnant with his sperm and they won't need to adopt!
i keed, i keed.
Do you plan on having a family?
Posted: Mon Jan 07, 2008 3:40 pm
by Marsupialized_Archive
trompuss wrote:Marsupialized wrote:Man, the other day I sat down at the computer and I see the wife was looking at pages about adopting a kid
I hope her and her second husband enjoy that kid they adopt
Maybe he will be able to make her pregnant with his sperm and they won't need to adopt!
i keed, i keed.
I know you kid but by all rights I should have gotten some chick pregnant at some point, I have not been especially careful over the years and as far as I know it's never happened.
My wife and I have never used any sort of birth control over the last 6 or so years and she's never gotten pregnant.
I'm thinking I do indeed have a sack of duds, thank god.
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Posted: Mon Jan 07, 2008 3:46 pm
by trompuss_Archive
It's funny you say that, I could have said almost the exact same thing for myself. I was about 34 when my wife got pregnant and it was the first time in my life there had been any sort of pregnancy related issue, ever. No missed period scares with past girls, none of it. So don't go taking it for granted now, your luck could change!
Do you plan on having a family?
Posted: Mon Jan 07, 2008 4:12 pm
by Josef K_Archive
iembalm wrote:I was a child before I had a child - bankruptcy, divorce, infidelity, etc. When I was 34 my wife and I decided to start a family (something that had not been an option with my ex-wife). My son was born with a serious birth defect, since corrected by surgery but something that will require a lifetime of vigilance.
I can understand how the prospect of children, let alone the added heartache, sacrifice and stress of a child with special needs, can be daunting. However, I can firmly state that my son has changed my life for the good in every way possible. Not even having a career that exposes me to daily death and grief (and which predated fatherhood by several years) did that.
When I was 8 years old I loved to play with my cars in the sandbox. When I was 17 I liked to drive fast and stay out all night. When I was 25 I used my credit cards like someone else was paying the bills.
I don't play in the sandbox anymore, I drive the speed limit, and live on a budget. I'm as close to retirement age now as I am to my high school graduation. I don't miss too many of the luxuries I have given up, and those I do miss don't even come close to tainting the joy my son gives me every day.
Do you plan on having a family?
Posted: Mon Jan 07, 2008 4:36 pm
by Robert G_Archive
I'm undecided naturally, since I am in my early 20s and pretty irresponsible. Not to mention, I have a pretty hard time looking that far ahead into the future as it is.
That said, the only people who I hate for having babies are the ones who do so because the Bible tells them so. I think it's safe to say that the majority of this message board will agree with me on this.