Past that...

It's not like it's a situation where listening to AC/DC is totally off of the table.

numberthirty wrote: Sun Apr 23, 2023 8:50 pm What did you even start a thread for?

Somehow I have a feeling that if I answer this question honestly, eventually it's going to lead me to being accused of not being any fun.

If a woman can't move to Whitehouse I don't want to know about her and I am prepared to die alone.

Happyman wrote: Sun Apr 23, 2023 9:54 pm If a woman can't wriggle to Whitehouse I don't want to know about her and I am prepared to die alone.

Fixed this.

jfv wrote: Sun Apr 23, 2023 9:30 pm

numberthirty wrote: Sun Apr 23, 2023 8:50 pm What did you even start a thread for?

Somehow I have a feeling that if I answer this question honestly, eventually it's going to lead me to being accused of not being any fun.

We were already on the verge of that happening.

No reason to be anything less than honest.

My wife listens to 3 types of music almost exclusively:

Fleetwood Mac
Dolly Parton
Various songs with an annoying looped instrument in the chorus

Crucially she doesn’t mind the weirdo shit I listen to.

I think I met her at a Six Finger Satellite show at the Fireside, or something similarly 90's. We're old enough that we unironically made mix tapes and CDs for each-other when we were courting. And we're both snobs, which is a bit difficult, but she used to be cooler than me. Alas she's not as into music as much as in our youth, but still well above grade. Also with screaming children at home it's harder to justify playing something willfully loud or "difficult". We did share a high five over PSYOP-ing our 13 year old with Yoko Ono when she was being bad. Go ahead, call the authorities.

It's basically crap/not crap at home. The last one was Protomartyr, which she's heavily into, and I'm luke-warm on.

I don't play out since before I met her, but I don't think I would invite her to my show, as I wouldn't want more hecklers.

Lex and I met at I met at a gig at De Nieuwe Anita (squat takeover venue) in Amsterdam over 12 years ago. The gig was a European Daughters show, and we still think of them as "our band". Actually Eyal from ED came to Chicago a few years ago, and he reached out on the old PRF and you were all super wonderful to him and showed him a great time when he was in town. So...thanks!

Our second meet up was at an experimental night a STEIM, and our third hang out was Surgeon playing a four hour set at Trouw. She is all over Ableton and has better ears than I do (we made out road trip usa album together from beginning to end). For example - I accidentally left an instance of Airwindows' Capacitor off one of the tracks, and she heard it right away and called it out.

I don't follow her into some of the more melodic parts of mid 2000s brit pop, and she isn't coming to the black metal party, but apart from those teensy edges its 98% correlation. We go record shopping together and nearly all shows and clubs and what not. I suppose our biggest point of deviation is that she thinks that I put too much vegemite on toast. I am prepared to overlook this.

numberthirty wrote: Sun Apr 23, 2023 10:32 pm

jfv wrote: Sun Apr 23, 2023 9:30 pm

numberthirty wrote: Sun Apr 23, 2023 8:50 pm What did you even start a thread for?

Somehow I have a feeling that if I answer this question honestly, eventually it's going to lead me to being accused of not being any fun.

We were already on the verge of that happening.

No reason to be anything less than honest.

Fine. I suspect I'm going to regret this.

Our marriage has seen better days. The primary reasons for this are not directly because of our musical tastes. In fact, as you alluded to, our musical tastes are actually quite compatible, for the most part. Going to see bands, or her seeing my band, were definitely happy bonding activities in the past for us.

Those things have happened rarely since our daughters were born. That being said, we're finally at the age when our children are old enough that the missus and I can leave them at home and go see a band together (or even take the kids with us), and this is something I hope we can do to improve things.

The problem is, she has her eye on seeing blink-182 this summer. Tickets are insanely priced, and I don't really want to go. There's also a bit of pride factor in that recently she has shown no interest in seeing some of the (noisier) bands I want to see.

I started this thread to see how others dealt with this kind of thing without making it exclusively about my situation. I guess I could have titled this thread, "Do I really want to spend a fuck-ton of money on blink-182 tickets, and sit through them live, in an effort to improve my marriage?", but wanted to spare myself from the overwhelming "yes" and/or "you should go to marriage therapy" answers. Forgive me.

Thank you to those who have replied thus far.

My wife and I have been together (barring a nightmare 6 months back in '01/'02) for a shade over 32 years now, and having grown together, our music tastes tend to dovetail very nicely. She's slightly more finnicky about female singers than me, and doesn't "do" Swans, but beyond that, lots and lots of overlap. I've been putting together a series of YouTube videos about Wire over the last month or so (please, feel free to check them out), and we've been deep-diving their entire back catalogue, comparing notes, nerding out, etc...and I have to say, it's been an absolute pleasure.